Deborah Lynn Flauto Oneto

May 12, 1961September 10, 2012

Deborah Lynn Oneto, 51, died Monday, September 10, 2012 after a long and courageous battle with cancer. Born May 12, 1961 to Anna and the late Vincent Flauto in Batavia, Illinois, she has resided in Raleigh for 20 years. Debbie was a pre-school teacher and a communicant of St. Raphael the Archangel Catholic Church in Raleigh. Her love touched the hearts of all she met.

Surviving are: her husband, of 29 years, Christopher Oneto of Raleigh; two daughters, Courtney and Chelsey Oneto of Raleigh; her mother Anna Flauto of Florida, two sisters, Barbara Flauto of Hollywood, Florida and Sue Taraboulous and husband, Sal of Sanford, Florida, a brother, Vincent Flauto and wife, Beth of Asheville, NC.

The family will receive friends 7-9 PM Thursday at Brown-Wynne Funeral Home, 1701 E. Millbrook Rd., Raleigh and 3-4 PM Friday at St. Raphael the Archangel Catholic Church, 5801 Falls of Neuse Rd., Raleigh, where a Mass of Christian Burial will follow at 4 PM.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Neuse River Golden Retriever Rescue ( in Raleigh. Share your condolences at


  • Visitation Thursday, September 13, 2012
  • Visitation Friday, September 14, 2012
  • Mass of Christian Burial Friday, September 14, 2012

Deborah Lynn Flauto Oneto

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Sue Taraboulous

September 10, 2013

I got up this morning at 4:30 and started to talk to you. I can't believe it's been year ago today that your precious soul went to heaven. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of you or have a wonderful memory of your life here on earth. I have started writing a story about my journey with you and your battle with cancer. I call it a Sister's story. I wrote some more this morning as I cried thinking about how I thought for sure you would win your battel with this dreadful disease. But I also laughed about the wonderful times we spent together with your short time on earth. The thing I miss more than anything, besides your warm heart, caring soul, and listening ear,is your contagious laugh, that had me peeing in my pants!! I would do anything to have just one more day to sit and laugh with you! Thank you for all the signs you have sent to me, letting me know you are still with me in spirit.If anyone is receiving an email and reading this note, please let me know of some wonderful memories you have had through the year about Debbie. I am going to try to post tonight part of the story I have starting about Deb's battle with cancer. Thank you God for the gift you gave me of my wonderful sister. Thank you for bringing me 2 beautiful nieces who I love as much as my own son, Michael. Please look over them today, as we remember this day Debbie left this earth to become an angel in heaven. Deb,I miss you so much!! I will be thinking of you all day, as I do every day.

Your loving sister,


December 28, 2012

We missed you so much Debbie. Frank and I are here, your beloved Home Sweet Home, enjoying the memories, treasure, and the loving Family circle you have created. Somehow, we must move forward with your spirit as our guide...In spite of our heartaches now and with the painful realization of our great loss, we came wanting to see your smile and imagining you bouncing up and down the stairs to make us feel welcome. We miss you ALL ways Dear Debbie. Thank you for your Love, Great Memories and Caring ways.

December 26, 2012


As I wake up this Christmas morning a tear drops from my eye
A joyous time and a time for celebration of the birth of Christ should all be on my mind
But as I look around at the beautiful Christmas decorations, I realize everything is you
From the beautiful bear tree to the lights strung up the staircase railing
I can hear your contagious laugh and see us preparing for Christmas morning with such excitement to see the faces of our kids
What joy there is in giving
And that is what you did in your life here on earth
Not only to our family, but to others and all children around you
I look at Courtney and see so much of you in her
She has made sure everything is as you would want it for Christmas and is making sure that everyone you always touched at this time of year remembers your giving heart
I listen to Chelsey, and her sense of humor is so much like you
Her and Michael still side by side Always playing with their gadgets
It's such a wonderful sight seeing all the kids together
And family together was always important to you
Here we are. All of us! Even Sal celebrating the holidays together as you would want it!
You must be smiling down from heaven feeling joy in the legacy you have left behind
You live on in all of us!
I wake up this morning and the kitchen is immaculate, just like you always left it before bed every night
I see Chris cleaning and picking up all the time, He makes sure your home stays perfect as you always had it.
Oh how you are missed!! The pain is with us everyday, but knowing you are with us in spirit helps to ease it.
So as this Christmas morning begins, I rejoice in your memory and the wonderful Christmas' we shared, from when you were just a little girl to the wonderful mother and wife you became
Your memory lives on and instead of tears of sadness on this day, I will look around and rejoice in the time I was able to share with you
I will be thankful for your beautiful daughters you brought to me, your wonderful husband, all his family that has become part of mine.
Merry Christmas my dear sweet sister!
I will let the joy of Christmas begin, knowing you are watching down from heaven with your loving and caring heart!


Donna Barron

October 18, 2012


I only met you a couple of times since I have been friends with your sister, Sue; but if you are anything like Sue (which I am sure you share similarities), you will always hold a special place in my heart. Sue and I have been friends for over 30 years. I did not know you as a teacher; but I have many friends that are teachers. Teachers are very special and unique people, which I know you are too. May God continue to comfort your family during this time and help you all cherish the memories and press forward. You will be missed here but we all will be together soon.

Sue's friend,
Donna Faulkner Barron (alia "Donna Pie")

October 1, 2012

We miss you so much Debbie. We love you. Thanks so much for being a wonderful, loving, and caring person. May the Lord take good care of you and take away all your pain.

Emy, Frank ,& Family from the Philippines

Kathy Flauto Kneuer

October 1, 2012

For my cousin Debbie and family
I was so sorry to hear of Debbies passing the other day. Although we havent seen or heard from each other in many years, I have always remembered her sweet and kind nature. Debbie was a special person in my wedding and she must have been loved and adored by many. My thoughts,prayers and sincerest sympathy go out to all the family .

October 1, 2012

This is the first day I could even think to open this guest book. I thank all of you who have shared your special memories of my sister Debbie. I requested to keep this book open for entries forever so that whenever a funny thought or a warm memory of Debbie comes along, friends and family will have the opportunity to continue to add messages to this book.

My sister was the most amazing person and she did not even realize it. She always admired me, when she was the one I always looked to for advise and I admired immensely.

Chris, Courtney, Chelsey and Casey,
Please know that I will always be there for you. Let's remember and live by Debbie's positive attitude and remember the joy she brought to us all. She lives on in all of us.

Debbie I will miss you always, but I know one day we will see each other again in heaven. I started writing a children's book today in your memory. It's going to be called Miss Debbie's Red Ties. I want your love and kindness to be passed on for generations to come. You were an angel on earth and I know you are the most beautiful angel looking over all of us right now.

Your loving sister,


September 25, 2012

I am so sorry Chris, Courtney, and Chelsey. Our prayers are with you. Thank you so much Debbie for the life, care, and love you shared. I miss you but I know you are in a much better place and resting. Our family in Philippines love you. Our hearts are broken forever Debbie..we love love.
Emy & Frank

Kathy & Charlie Bowie

September 20, 2012

Dear Chris & girls,
Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. We were so sorry to hear of Debbie's passing. Even though we haven't seen you and Debbie since you moved from South Florida 20 years ago, we have very warm memories of both of you as the best next door neighbors anyone could hope for. We will continue to keep all of you in our prayers.
Kathy & Charlie Bowie

linda mcnamara

September 15, 2012

dearest debbie my best friend i can never forget you and the memories of growing up together. my heart aches from this loss. all my love to chris courtney and chelsey ,family and friends . my deepest sympathy.