Herbert Arthur Sandman

November 2, 1939August 3, 2011

Herbert Arthur Sandman

November 2, 1939-August 3, 2011

H. Arthur Sandman, age 71, passed away on August 3, 2011. The only child of David and Madeline B. Sandman, Arthur was born and raised in Asheville, NC. A lifelong sports fan, Arthur especially loved watching and attending UNC football and basketball games. Also, as a young boy he listened to the St. Louis Cardinals baseball games on AM station KMOX, and spent his later years traveling to stadiums around the country following the Cardinals. Active as a young man in BBYO, Arthur was the President of AZA for the State of North Carolina. While in high school, Arthur met Elaine Elden of New Bern, NC, whom he wed in 1960, was married to for 33 years, and with whom he always continued a warm personal friendship. Together, they raised four children: Michael, Barry, Dana and Andrew. Never shy about playing favorites, Dana, his only daughter, could always make him smile and show his rare softer side. Arthur graduated from UNC-Chapel Hill and UNC-Chapel Hill School of Law where he was a member of the Law Review and Order of the Coif. Following law school he began his career as a CPA with Ernst & Ernst in Washington, DC while earning a Masters of Law in Taxation from Georgetown University. Moving to Raleigh in 1965, Arthur began a long and varied career. He was a professor of business law and accounting at N.C. State University, the founder of DJ’s Bookstores, DJ’s Textbooks and The Deli-King delicatessen among many other business ventures. Throughout, Arthur maintained a business and real estate law practice. In business, Arthur will, no doubt, be best remembered for his development and investments in local and regional real estate. With the support of wonderful partners and investors, Arthur involved himself in the development and management of dozens of projects ranging from residential subdivisions, retail plazas, hotels, apartments and office buildings. He never used a computer to analyze a project, always relying simply on a legal pad, an adding machine and a thoughtful, if not intuitive, understanding of location, timing and value. Outside of business, Arthur was a faithful member of and leader in Raleigh’s Jewish community, serving as a President and later lifetime Trustee of Temple Beth Or. But, it was to his family that he was truly devoted. A dedicated father in every sense, father-in-law, grandfather, teacher and role model to Michael and Lisa Sandman, Barry Sandman and Karen Blazeff, Dana and Scott Gorelick, Andrew and Jennifer Sandman, and his eight grandchildren: Ryan, Zachary, Marshall, Elyssa, Madeline, Braxton, Tate and Harper. To us all, we will miss but never forget his ready opinions, moodiness, love, incredible generosity and spirit for life. Arthur was incredibly blessed to have yet another, remarkably special and important love in his life, Carolyn McCain. Together they happily shared many years of travel, sports, good food and most importantly, each other’s company. Arthur’s love of Carolyn and her love and care for him, no doubt, added the strength and inspiration for more life than his family and doctors ever imagined possible. The entire family extends a warm thank you to the many special individuals who were involved with delivering extraordinary and compassionate care to Arthur throughout his courageous battle with cancer. A memorial service will be held at Temple Beth Or, 5315 Creedmoor Road, Raleigh, NC on Friday, August 5th at 11:00 and will be followed by a graveside service at Raleigh Hebrew Cemetery, 450 N. State Street, Raleigh, NC. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to the Temple Beth Or Sandman Family Endowment, 5315 Creedmoor Road, Raleigh, NC 27612, Hospice of Wake County, 250 Hospice Circle, Raleigh, NC 27607 or Rex Cancer Center, 2500 Blue Ridge Road, Suite 325, Raleigh, NC 27607.


  • Funeral Service Friday, August 5, 2011

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James Pell

August 23, 2011

I knew Arthur since the late 50's. Even though I lived in Greensboro, through BBYO it seemed one knew many kids in NC. I remember conventions in Asheville and specific gatherings at Arthur's home. Later, Arthur was one of the main reasons I joined Pi Lambda Phi, and I was just a couple of years behind him in UNC Law School. Arthur was respected by all who knew him and was an gentle, effective, and modest leader. Although I had not seen Arthur in many years, the news of his passing deeply saddened me. I know he will be truly missed by all.

Ellen Dave Slosman Knoefel

August 21, 2011

I just learned of Arthur's passing and having grown up with him in Asheville I certainly feel a void. Whenever I drive by his home here I can't help but think of all the times we spent together. AZA and BBG were our lives back then. Condolences to all.

Nancy Fields

August 11, 2011

Michael, I am so sorry to hear of the passing of Arthur. He was a brilliant man and will be missed by so many. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Steve Goldstein

August 9, 2011

Arthur took me to a Carolina-Tennessee game in Knoxville about fifty years ago. I enjoyed it greatly, have never forgotten it, and appreciate his kindness then and later. I am sorry for the family's loss.

August 8, 2011

Tate, We want you to know that we are thinking of you and are sorry for your loss. Andrew and Emily Alcock

Shirley & Bob Goldwasser

August 8, 2011

To the family of Arthur Sandman:
Our heartfelt sympathy to all of you at this sad time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. His name will surely be for a blessing.


August 6, 2011

Arthur was a gentle and caring man... He was very wise and he shared many opportunities. I have known him and his family since I moved here in 1966... our kids were friends, too, they went to Sunday School together. Arthur was a pillar of our community. He will be missed by all who knew him. My sincere condolences to all the family. J!LL FL!NK

Nancy Cashwell

August 6, 2011

Elaine, Michael, Barry, Dana and Andrew, I am so sorry for your loss. Arthur was a special man with a unique ability to work with people to make a difference in the world around him. He was a wonderful boss, giving those around him respect and space to do their jobs in the best way possible. I always enjoyed running into Arthur at continuing ed courses and catching up. He will be missed by many. I am sorry that I did not learn of his passing until after the service. My condolences and love to you all.

Elaine Wrenn

August 6, 2011

My thoughts and prayers are with the entire family at this time and in the months ahead.Arthur was a wonderful man that loved his family dearly.I feel honored and so blessed to have had Arthur as my friend for many years.I will miss him more than I can find the words to express..

Tom Payne

August 5, 2011

Our condolences to Arthur's friends and family. He was our landlord (the Rathskeller on Hillsborough St.) for almost 27 years. We had our ups and downs over time but I always had the utmost respect for him. His favorite dish at the Rat was a chef salad with tons of lemon tahini dressing.
Tom and Linda Payne