Thomas Malcolm Ash
October 19, 1949 – September 15, 2020
On Tuesday, September 15th, 2020, while surrounded by his loving family, Thomas passed peacefully after his 20 year battle with Parkinson’s, at the age of 70.
Thom is survived by his wife, Sharon Ash (Lang), daughters, Heather (Jim) Burroughs and Erin Ash, four grandchildren: Elliana, Devyn, James, and Lillian, his sister, Bonnie (David) Breedlove and brother, Russ (Sharon) Ash. Thom was predeceased by his sisters, Louise Long and Kathy Bertan.
Thom was loved by many for his compassionate and caring disposition. As a Husband, Father, and Papa, Thom taught us the true meaning of unconditional love. He was quick to offer support or guidance to the people in his inner circle, as well as new acquaintances who were in need. Thom listened with an open mind and never made anyone feel rushed. His dry sense of humor often made us wonder, until we saw his smirk, and knew it was okay to laugh! These qualities made him a wonderful school psychologist for over 30 years. Thom not only inspired the children he worked with to become better advocates for themselves, but also guided young college students going into the education field at Nazareth College.
Before the limitations of Parkinson’s crept in, Thom loved making his home beautiful with various projects inside and out. Thom enjoyed gardening, skiing, riding his bike, and spending time with the ones he loved. While his ability to speak was diminished by his medical challenges, his ability to love never wavered.
A Memorial Service celebrating Thom’s life will be held at 1:00PM on Sat. October 3rd, at St. Paul Lutheran Church, 158 East Ave, Hilton, NY 14468. Due to the current pandemic, all in attendance are required to wear masks and social distancing guidelines must be followed.
The number of people attending this service in-person will be based on the updated COVID precaution guidelines. For those who will not be at the church, but would still like to attend, there will be a virtual format offered via Facebook Live. The day of the service, please find the link on the St. Paul Lutheran Church and School in Hilton, NY's Facebook page. https://www.facebook.com/StPaulHiltonNY/
For those who will miss Thom dearly and want to pay tribute to his life and all those he touched, please consider donating to the Parkinson’s Foundation, 1000 Elmwood Ave., Rochester, NY 14620.
Saturday, October 3, 2020
Thomas Malcolm Ash
September 29, 2020
Mark & I are saddened to hear of your loss. Thom was a special friend to Mark and me. Mark has some great memories of their time together. One in particular when Thom would pick him up to go to the exercise class. Sometimes they would get lost but Thom always managed to find the place eventually. They would laugh and joke with each other. Mark is still battling his Parkinson's disease but he hopes to have the same courage that Thom did. God bless you.
September 26, 2020
I've known Sharon and Tom since we were kids. They are both such gentle, beautiful people. Tom was healed in heaven on September 15. My heart goes out to the entire family.
Peggy Crelly Snaider
September 22, 2020
My wife and I have also been on a journey with Parkinson’s Disease, and along the way there have been blessings. One of those blessings was becoming friends with Thom. He brought insight, humor, and compassion to those with PD and their care partners. Even in the midst of the disease Thom was able bring cheer with a humorous but insightful comment. Thom, thank you for letting us share this time with you.
September 17, 2020
Dear Ash Family, my heart goes out to all of you during this time.
Your family has been part of my life for more than 25 years. I LOVED MR. ASH SO MUCH! He will always have a special place in my heart.
When I came to your house and met him for the first time he was so nice and welcoming. He was also very witty and made me laugh and smile so much. Since that first encounter he made me smile and laugh countless other times.
Your family has been so inspiring and incredible when it comes to the great love and care that you have shown to him as he battled with Parkinson's. He was inspiring in so many ways as well and I am a better person for knowing him.
GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU!