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OBITUARY

Carol Murphy Fleisher

September 10, 1934January 9, 2020

Carol Joan Fleisher (née Murphy) passed away January 9, 2020. She was born September 10, 1934 and grew up in Fremont, Michigan, where she served as a drum majorette and was co-valedictorian of her high school class. She earned her bachelor’s and master’s degrees in speech therapy from the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, where she met her husband of 62 years, David Fleisher, on a one-sided blind date (David, who leaves very little to chance, scoped her out from his bicycle while she waited at a bus stop). After their first date, David made the wise choice to book up her schedule for several weeks in advance, and the rest was history.

Carol and David have lived in the same home in Webster Groves for over 50 years. They traveled the world together, visiting countless countries across multiple continents. Carol was a gifted musician and shared her love of music throughout her life as the piano accompanist for the Pitch Pipers and the Statesmen vocal groups. As a dedicated member of Webster Groves Presbyterian Church, she directed the Praise Ringers, a teen handbell choir, for over 30 years. She loved keeping up with her former bell ringers and organized a popular annual Christmas performance for Praise Ringer alumni. She provided free vision screenings to hundreds of preschool students in St. Louis through the Delta Gamma Center and was a longtime member of the P.E.O. Sisterhood. Her many hobbies included cooking and gardening, and in recent years she became a skilled bridge player. She published several books of genealogy research, having traced her family’s origins as far back as the 15th century. Carol served as a Stephen Minister, counseling people experiencing difficult times, and enriched others’ lives with her deep generosity, grace, open-mindedness, and sparkling sense of humor.

Although both Carol and her husband David grew up as the only children in their families, they created a vast and loving extended family that included not only their own children and grandchildren, but a number of lifelong friends. In addition to David, Carol is survived by her son, David Fleisher, Jr. of St. Louis, his wife Leah Ann Fleisher, her daughter, Susan Dooley of McLean, Virginia, and her husband Dan Dooley, and her grandchildren Monica, Caroline, Daniel, Natalie, Elaine, Joseph, and Nina. The Fleisher clan has gathered at Carol and David’s cottage, Moonglow, in Northern Michigan every summer since it was built in 1984. Other special trips took the family to Hawaii, where they celebrated Carol and David’s 50th wedding anniversary, and Alaska, where they celebrated their 60th anniversary.

A memorial service and reception will be held at 2 p.m. on February 1, 2020, at the Webster Groves Presbyterian Church. Donations in Carol's memory may be made to the Webster Groves Presbyterian Church Endowment Fund, 45 W. Lockwood Ave, Webster Groves, MO, 63119 (www.wgpc.org) or the Delta Gamma Center for Children with Visual Impairments, 1750 S. Big Bend Blvd, Richmond Heights, MO, 63117 (www.dgckids.org/support/)

May the road rise up to meet you. May the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face, and the rains fall soft upon your fields, and until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.

Services

1 February

Memorial Service - Saturday

2:00 pm

Webster Groves Presbyterian Church

45 West Lockwood Avenue
Saint Louis, Missouri 63119

Memories

Carol Murphy Fleisher

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Lauren Zinn

January 24, 2020

The week after she passed, I dreamt of Carol.

In the dream, Carol stood on the landing of high steps to what I thought was a hotel in a big city. Behind her was a tall, thick, shiny-black painted door. I could not see into the “hotel” through this door but knew it to be the entry. On her right stood Ruth. On her left, Suzy. Carol was the center of this trip. She looked beautiful. She radiated peace.

In the dream, Carol, Ruth, and Suzy were all smiling. It was winter and Carol wore a long, white, warm coat with a fuzzy collar. Ruth and Suzy wore white coats with shorter collars. They all waved to people on the street below. I was one on the street waving up at them. Ruth was waving with her right hand and Suzy with her left. Carol waved with loving eyes. I knew her arms encircled her dear friend and dear daughter because those "open arms" are how I always know, remember, and will miss Auntie Carol.

Lauren Zinn

January 24, 2020

Carol has been on my heart since her passing. I have been sitting with thoughts and images of her since then. Here are just a few...
I remember Auntie Carol, this dear and close friend of my in-laws, immediately embracing and welcoming me into the Fleisher-Zinn Community. I can still feel her welcoming spirit.
I remember liking a recipe of hers and the next thing I knew, she had left a hand-written copy with Ruth to give to me.
I remember observing Carol’s friendship with Frank and Ruth. She once walked to the Cottage to give Ruth a penny she owed her. This trust and loyalty became a model for friendships in my own life.
I remember feeling honored when Carol asked us what colors and patterns we would like in the Amish quilt she was making for our wedding. I can still feel the awe of her thoughtfulness. That quilt is now 31 years old and though it’s seen better days we could never part with it. It symbolizes the way Carol wrapped everyone in her warmth, how she treated others -no matter what age or species - with respect, and how she brought beauty into the world whether it was with a blanket, a recipe, a dinner, a game, a garden, or a word.
My deepest love and sympathy goes to all your family at this tender time. May memories of Carol be blessings upon us all.

Lynn Cressler

January 21, 2020

One of my favorite women, I will always remember her as Mrs. Fleisher! No matter how hard she tried to get me to call her Carol, I could never break the habit from growing up and being friends with David! She always had a smile on her face, and had something nice to say, whether it was an update on her family or asking about mine. I loved hearing about the summers in Michigan, as when we designed her flowers for WG, they had to survive the summers without her! She will not be forgotten... the Fleisher family is in my thoughts and prayers.

Amy Griffin

January 16, 2020

When I moved to McLean I never could have known I would be so lucky and get the most wonderful neighbors - ones who would truly become like family. As a result, I have been lucky over the past 18 years to have had the pleasure of getting to know Carol through her visits to Virginia.

We shared many stories while at the bus stop as she waited to greet her grandchildren and even more laughs over cocktails and dinners. When I went through a divorce, Carol and Dave graciously adopted me to the clan and invited me to join in their annual tradition of going to the Palm the night before Thanksgiving. I will always remember her sharing the tale during one of these dinners of a New Year’s Eve party she attended when she was younger where the French 75 cocktails were served and packed such a punch that she and her friends barely made it to midnight. Susan and my ears perked up and we somehow thought our iron livers would be up to the task and promptly planned to serve the drinks at my upcoming birthday night out. I learned that I was no less immune to this lethal potion and had my evening also cut short by Carol’s now famed French 75.

I always looked forward to seeing Carol on her visits here - she had a warmth and kindness that glowed in her smile and I know that her loving spirit and grace live on in her daughter Susan.
Sending love and sympathies to Dave and her entire family - one that I know from first hand experience extends well beyond the bounds of blood.

Becky Hitchcock

January 16, 2020

One never knows the impact one can have on a person's life-or what one is teaching when others are observing. Living with Susan in Chicago after college afforded my husband, Cam, and me to be blessed with Moon and Moosie's character, grace, dry humor and love. Moosie was the quintessential wife, mother, grandmother and hostess. As a young adult nearing marriage, I was blessed to observe a woman who loved her husband well-with such grace- and nurtured her children and grandchildren with consistent joy and gratitude. Moosie served with arms wide open, especially when you were blessed to spend time at Moonglow. I took mental notes. I even recalled a thought I’d filed "I want to be like that when I'm a wife and mother.” Moosie’s hand-written recipe cards for peanut blossom cookies, chicken stir fry and that dang gain -five- pounds- in- one- sitting Texas sheet cake are still in our pantry. The recipes are all favorites in the Hitchcock household and our five children love them! Moosie's grace, faith and love are also handwritten and on our hearts forever. And her Father in Heaven also has welcomed her home with arms wide open-like she has for so many others. Until we meet again... Much Much love, Cam and Becky

Peter Zinn

January 16, 2020

A beautifully written obituary. I have had the honor to know this wonderful lady my entire life. There are so many memories I hold dear - from her delicious shrimp dijon dinners to her waffle breakfasts to sunset gatherings on Lake Michigan beaches to pleasant chats on the back deck of Moonglow to visits in NYC and Chicago, to a multitude of fun-filled spring break trips to Florida and California (that occurred yearly for decades) - to game nights in the living rooms at Woodsmere, The Cottage, Bluffholm, Kudzu, and Moonglow, to wed night barbeques, speed boat rides, dune rides, and white fish dinners at so many great spots, to throwing the ball to Jessie, and visits with Bunka Don and Barb. To times spent with my kids - she was so lovely and wonderful to my children - to ALL children - she had a way with kids that made ME want to be a kid again - to her laughter her bright big wonderful smile that would put any sad soul in a better mood - I'm so sad she's gone - she left us how she lived - with dignity and peacefully. I'll miss you, Auntie Carol. Throw Jessie the ball for me. Love, Pete

Paul Murphy

January 15, 2020

Although we haven't crossed paths over the past many years, I have many fond memories of times together in Fremont visiting our grandparents on the farm. Also more fond memories at the University of Michigan. Carol was always fun to be around and I'm sure she will be missed by many lives she has touched. I have a son named James because of my fondness of Carol's dad whose first name was also James.

Carla Buriks

January 15, 2020

Where to begin with Mrs. Fleisher? A wonderful mother and true friend. Would it be when I spent the night at Susan's after a dance and forgot to tell my mom (3 am phone call from fast talking Dutch woman fielded no sweat), raising one of the truly funniest and strongest women I know, fun times in Michigan when she hosted Susan's friends, invitations to pancake breakfasts at Christmas each year, graciously attending my father's skating rink memorial and oh so many other events, and always having a smile and warm word to share. Where to end with Mrs. Fleisher? Well, that's the nice thing - we don't have to as she will live on in warm memories, laughs, stories, and the family and friends that remember her.

Lisa Shields Miller

January 14, 2020

I will always remember Carol with her beautiful smile, wonderful sense of humor, and her gentle spirit.
Susan and I used to grab Carol by each arm in fellowship hall after church while she wasn't paying attention; and we would whisk her out of the room while trying to get her to confess the P.E.O. secrets. We would do this to my mom as well, but neither one would ever give us any of the information we were looking for! Each week we would find some other reason to harass Carol, and each week she would always laugh at our goofiness, and she never seemed annoyed with us. Or at least she never showed it!
I remember all of the fun family times through church, school activities, and other get togethers. Carol was loved by many people, including me, and we will all miss her dearly.

Sam, Noah, and Eve Beiting

January 14, 2020

I put out a text to Sam, Noah, and Eve asking them what came to mind when they think of Auntie Carol. These were their responses:
Eve - "Waffles at Moonglow."
Noah - "1) Grammy's best friend. 2) Breakfast at Moonglow."
Sam - "Balderdash and game night, Moonglow, drinking lemonade on their deck, always being warmly welcomed into their home, her kindness and warmth always made me feel like I was one of her grandchildren."

FROM THE FAMILY