February 20, 1938 – April 15, 2020
A celebration, of what his many friends and family members agree was a “life well lived”, will be held at 11:00 AM on Saturday, October 24, 2020 for Thomas A. Hogarty, a highly visible, always smiling and warm-hearted husband, father, grandfather and great grandfather. Tom Hogarty, 82, died unexpectedly April 15, 2020 of complications following a heart attack at his northeast Scottsdale, Ariz. home where he and his wife, Donna, lived. A proud New Yorker, Tom was born February 20, 1938 in Queens, NYC. After graduation from La Salle Military Academy in Oakdale, NY, he served in the U.S. Army Reserves from 1955-62. He was a graduate of St. John’s University in NYC and later earned a master’s degree from New York University in 1964.
Tom worked as a newspaper reporter in Washington, D.C. and later, was Editor of New York Construction News, NYC 1966-73. In 1974 he started his own Public Relations firm specializing in the construction industry.
After relocating to North San Diego County in 1987, he continued his focus helping clients in the construction industry. In 1997 Tom launched the highly successful Engineering and General Contractor Association’s (EGCA) magazine and served as its Editor and Publisher for 17 years. He was also Editor and Publisher of the Awards Journal for the Concrete Industry Board, NYC for 12 years as well as for the Concrete Industry Foundation, NYC for 10 years.
Tom’s San Diego community service included many years as an active member and song leader and 1998-99 president of the Rotary Club of Escondido as well as president in 2012-13 of the Escondido After Five Rotary Club. He also served as Chairman 2008-09 of the Escondido Chamber of Commerce. Tom’s community service extended beyond leadership roles. He worked as a volunteer in many charitable events; and blessed with his gift and love of music, he also was lead singer in two barbershop quartets.
Following his move to Scottsdale, Ariz. in 2014, Tom was Publisher's Representative for the AZ Contractor and Community magazine, Phoenix. Tom retired in 2019. In his personal life, Tom proudly described himself as a “Yankee Doodle Dandy,” in keeping with his favorite song. In his spare time, with Donna always at his side, he enjoyed reading non-fiction biographies and history books, composing and singing clever parodies, playing the ukulele, attending the Diamondback games and lots of singing. In addition to his wife, Donna, and greyhound mix, HoneyBear, Tom is deeply missed by his three daughters in New York: Naomi Collins (Kyle), Kathleen Hogarty and Sarah Gentry; a daughter, Nicole Macias (Nicholas) in San Francisco, Calif.; six grandchildren - Ella, Quentin, Oakley, Hannah, Connor, Charlie Danger and a great grandson, Colton. He was preceded in death by his twin brother, John; and a daughter, Claire-Marie.
Nicole, the youngest daughter, on behalf of her and her sisters, said "We are heartbroken and unable to picture a world without him....his quick wit, unparalleled humor, his songs and smiles....but the 'show' must go on."
“Tommy would want his family and friends to ‘always look at the bright side of life (whistle)’ .... just as he did. His was a life well lived." said Donna. ‘Strange, isn’t it? Each man’s life touches so many other lives. When he isn’t around, he leaves an awful hole, doesn’t he?’ “Till we meet again, my Yankee Doodle Dandy.” xo
Memorial Service and Celebration of Life
Saturday, October 24, 2020
October 24, 2020
Oh how we wish we could have been there today to honor and remember Tom and to be with you, Donna, and the family to celebrate his life. It was so wonderful to hear the girls talk about their dad with such love and pride, the way he always talked about them.
We feel especially blessed to have been a part of Tom’s life and will always remember his kindness and sense of humor. He was so special.
I know that when he got to heaven he heard the words, “Well done good and faithful servant.”
We love you Donna!💕
October 5, 2020
It is hard to believe more than half a century of conversations and emails about baseball and barbershop has come to an end. Who else will knowingly smile when I describe Clem Labine lumbering in from the bullpen to rescue a Brooklyn afternoon or acknowledge the minor valor in transitioning from tenor to lead (or in my case, lead to bass)? Funny, clever, thoughtful, connected: the friend who called when my sister died and listened --- no BS about a “better place,” just listened to memories, regrets, disbelief. That’s the hardest part of losing someone who was so full of life and losing them suddenly. I still think of him out there in the west, rooting for the silly Padres, singing with an aging quartet, loving Donna and his girls, making the world rhyme.
RIP Thomas Aquinas Hogarty, your like will not be seen again.
Barbara Feeney Abendschein
September 20, 2020
There is nothing I can say about Tom that hasn't been already said. He had humor, talent, looks and compassion. When my husband passed in 12/2017 I began to receive phone calls from Tom about every 2 weeks. He just called to see if I was doing alright, and then he would spend time telling me what he and Donna were doing. With his humor in the forefront, by the time the call ended, he had me laughing, usually at him. He is sorely missed, but I know he is up there singing his favorite song.
September 20, 2020
Some friendships evolve over time, others are instantaneous. With Tom and me, it was certainly the latter. I suspect that was probably the case with all his friends.
Perhaps it was his charm, or his character, perhaps his gentle and welcoming nature that was such an attraction. Most likely, it was it was all of the above. Add unmistakable integrity and courtesy, qualities becoming increasingly difficult to discover.
His enormous talents and humor were always received with great delight. I was never quite sure, who enjoyed his performances more, his audiences or himself. Talk about the ultimate showman.
Tom’s friendship was something I always held dear, and a gift I continue to treasure.
Irv Erdos, Escondido California
September 12, 2020
Obit reads like Tom and brings many pleasant memories from years at SJU. OVER the years since we found ourselves in different parts of country but managed periodic get togethers usually via events in NY. A great and cherished friend.
August 9, 2020
I worked for Tom for three years after graduating from college. In addition to giving me incredible opportunities and support to start my career, we had so much fun together. He was the most naturally humorous person I’ve ever met. Absolutely brilliant. Many, many fond memories. He was The Godfather of our first daughter.
July 15, 2020
Here are additional remarks from his fraternity brothers.
Tom was a fine gentleman and a faithful TAU brother.
When he was Editor of the NY Construction News he wrote a fitting obituary for Thomas E White my wife’s father who died suddenly of a Heart Attack at age 51.
The glowing obituary of Tom White helped the family through that tragic time .
Tom and I stayed in contact over the years both while I was in the Navy and later in civilian life.
He will be missed
Going back some 50+ years, I worked at 330 Madison Avenue. Peter P Smith and Tom had offices in the same building and we would frequently run into each other. Never close, but always a treat to spend time , however brief with a brother.
He had a great attitude towards life.
Thomas J Fraser
July 13, 2020
Tom was a member of TAU fraternity at St John’s University in New York where I first met him. We stayed in touch via email over the years. When I saw his obit in the San Diego newspaper I reached out to our fraternity brothers to inform them. Below are some of their responses I received. I regret not seeing him in Scottsdale and will try to attend the celebration of life in September. He is in my prayers and thoughts.
Tom was a good brother!!! My best wishes to his family and sorrow for their loss,
Tom was always up, very optimistic. He loved to write. Once when we were both in the service
countries apart, he wrote me a letter on teletype paper and it was at least six feet long!
I didn’t know he was a twin.
So sorry to hear and especially sorry I never got to see him again...Good Man
May he Rest In Peace
Will pass along
June 1, 2020
I was saddened to read of Toms' passing in our local paper. My husband and I knew Tom and Donna from the First United Methodist Church in Escondido. He always had a smile and was just a real friendly guy. He also involved himself in the church and the community. I am sorrry for his sudden passing.
Laurie & Bill Schwartz
May 17, 2020
Tom and I met in 1998 because of Rotary, became workmates and friends. We worked together on a number of projects, he as editor and publisher (EGCA Magazine, CIB awards books and journals and the CIF journals), and I did his editing and design work. Almost 20 years seeing projects through, from start to finish. I was so happy for Tom and Donna when he got to retire not long ago and spend more time with his special lady and his dog. But Tom actually getting to the finish line? That I just couldn't ever imagine. Such a wonderful, happy, energetic, positive person, with a wit that always made me smile or laugh and always a great story about growing up and living in NY. He lived a full and complete life, and he will be missed by so so many. Those who live on in our hearts never truly leave us.