OBITUARY

Anna Marie Harvey Healey

June 27, 1961February 25, 2013

DR. ANNA M. HARVEY

Anna Marie Harvey Healey died Monday, February 25, 2013 at her home in Seattle, Washington. She will be deeply missed by her family and many friends! Anna has been a long time resident of Seattle. She was born on June 27, 1961 in Brownsville, Texas to Mary Ann Jones Harvey and James Bell Harvey. She grew up in Austin, Texas with her brother, James (Jimmy) Alfred Harvey, and sister, Amelia Christina Harvey. Anna was always an adventurous person. When she was young she loved to ride her horse, Fresca, through the hills around the family home, swim at Barton Springs pool, and go camping with the family. Anna was very involved in school activities, including being a member of the Westlake High School state championship Cross Country Track team and being 1st chair clarinet in the award winning Westlake HS Band. The Westlake Band toured Japan during her senior year. She was also on the Westlake HS basketball team when girls basketball was a half court game. Anna graduated in the top 10% of her high school class. Anna went to Randolph-Macon in Virginia for her first year of college. She completed college at the University of Texas in Austin. She was a member of the Plan II Liberal Arts Honors Program and also majored in pre-med. Anna did her medical training at the University of Texas Medical School in San Antonio graduating in 1987. She completed her medical internship at the Medical School of Arizona in Tucson. The following year she worked as a physician at the Veterans Administration Hospital in Tucson.

Anna then did her Medical Residency Training in Psychiatry at the University of Washington Medical School in Seattle. During this time she made many friends among the other residents, many of whom practice in the Seattle area. This was also where she met William (Bill) Vincent Healey, III, who was the head resident. After her residency Anna took an extended vacation and studied Spanish in the Caribbean, Costa Rica and Guatemala. She gathered many friends and her brother Jimmy for a kayaking trip in the Caribbean, bicycled through Costa Rica and traveled there with her mother. Anna then returned to Seattle and set up her medical practice in psychiatry and has continued that practice until the present. On May 7, 1994 she married Bill Healey. The had two wonderful children, Caroline Pearl Healey and Benjamin David Harvey Healey who are now 15 and 13. While Anna and Bill divorced in 2006, they have worked closely together to support, raise and care for their children. Anna was a thoughtful, caring and creative mother. She arranged her work life and personal life so she could spend time with her children and participate in their activities. She chose places to live in the Blue Ridge neighborhood that was welcoming for children. Anna made her home a place where her children and their friends loved to gather. She and Caroline had many sewing and baking projects together. The family loved to jump on the trampoline, play cards and games, dine at restarants and eat ice cream together. Anna and Caroline have been members of a mother/daughter group for a number of years. This group of mothers and daughters have met regularly for activities that built strong bonds between the generations and support the daughters as they grow toward womanhood. The bonds of friendship and support are very strong in this group. Anna was chair of the Blue Ridge Neighborhood 4th of July parade and picnic for many years and arranged other neighborhood activities. One of those was the New Years day Polar Bear Swim which has become a tradition. Anna was also an active member of a women’s book club that has been an enriching and supportive part of her life The Seabeck Family Camp has become an annual tradition that Anna, her children and other family members have enjoyed together. Several years Anna was editor of the camp newspaper and Caroline was the star reporter. All of the family participated in the many camp activities. Ben took part in the camp talent show by playing his ukulele. Anna was a loving and strong woman who made a positive impact on those around her. She loved to laugh and challenge others. Anna was proud of her children and grateful to have such supportive friends and family. Her death was a shock to all who knew her and her memory will live on in the hearts of those she touched.

A EULOGY FOR ANNA MARIE HARVEY HEALEY MARCH 2, 2013

Thank you all so very much for coming this afternoon to honor the memory of Anna Marie Harvey Healey, and to support her two most precious gifts to life, Caroline and Ben, in this time of terrible terrible loss. I am here to serve as guide as we visit and move through some of the periods of Anna’s life and pause to pay our respects to someone who deeply and meaningfully touched the lives of all of us in this room. And we gather to give our strength and support to her beloved children and allow them to feel the tidal wave of love and respect and grief and loss that their mom’s death has inspired.

Anna Harvey was nothing short of a force of nature. It is safe to say that you will not meet a lot of people like her in the course of your life. She was energetic, intelligent and loving and had a great big heart. She was passionate and vivacious, well read and informed. She had a profound intellect and loved to read and to discuss politics, the world, books and movies, medicine, spirituality and the meaning life. She was exuberant, vital, and defined zest for life. She loved people, games, travel and adventure, and was always ready to set up a game night or have a luau or organize a polar bear swim. She was feisty, opinionated and not one to back down from her beliefs or what she thought was right. She was no stranger to controversy and struggle, but really, who isn’t. She was a leader and was dedicated to community involvement in a way that is an inspiration to many. Her work with the Blue Ridge community, especially the 4th of July, her favorite holiday, is legendary, as we can see from the plethora of pies brought here in tribute today.

But by far the most meaningful role for her was as an adoring mother to Ben and Caroline. Anna has left the most profound legacy that any of us could hope for, children who reflect our finer qualities. Ben and Caroline are so much the living embodiments of the core values and principles that Anna believed in and held dear. I look at these two wonderful emerging young people and see funny, loving, feisty, energetic, creative, thoughtful, and caring people with strong internal cores. These are the aspects of Anna that will live on, even as she transitions to another plan, past a door we cant see through. It is these qualities that will help them endure the unimaginable grief of losing a mother at such a tender age. It is these qualities of essential human goodness that will endure and nourish and fill her babies with the love she carried. I know she is, and will be, so proud of them It is to Anna’s great and enduring credit that our co-parenting after our divorce was smooth and supportive and collaborative. I believe the children have benefitted from her dedication to this and her ability to put their best interests first. We did not see eye to eye on a lot of things, Anna and I, but I can truthfully say that there was never significant friction, before or after our separation, around how these precious kids would be raised. This is the best thing we did.

Anna’s priority was the children, and they came before all else. She gave them so much of what kids need Time, attention, love, nurturing, and an infinite capacity to be there fully with their thoughts and feelings. She was in the moment and vitally present with them, even when it was clear that she was struggling herself. She never lost sight of what really matters in this life, the living legacy we leave in our off spring. She had the maternal instincts of what children need, and Ben and Caroline are so fortunate to have had that experience. We want to share what we know at this point about the circumstances of Anna’s death. We all know Anna was struggling mightily in the last few years with her depression and mood disorder, but we do not yet understand the exact nature of her passing At this point the medical examiner has not determined cause of death, and there is no evidence of heart attack or damage to cardiac tissue, stroke, obvious suicide, or foul play. There is no concrete evidence that this was intentional. It will be weeks for results of blood tests which will help us understand more. She was found dressed, with her home in order, and looking like she was off to pick up Ben at school. When she did not arrive on time, we worried about something very wrong, she had never not shown up before. BUT Anna had not been looking well. I am suspecting that a combination of meds she was taking for depression and recent rapid weight loss may have led to an arrhythmia of her heart, which would not be detectable on autopsy. Further results will help us know more.

Although it is my feeling that Anna did die of her mood disorder, from my heart I want to share that this does not have the essence of any intentional action. No one who knows anything about the heart of Anna Harvey would believe that she would do something that would harm her children.

So what can you REALLY say about the death of a parent, especially a mom. There is no bond in life that exists like that between a mother and her children. How do you say goodbye? There is so much unfinished business. There is so much left unsaid and undone. Losing a parent is devastating, sad and painful at any age, but how much more so when you are trying to figure out how to be a young man or woman. It can be so frightening, overwhelming and sad sad sad.

But I am here to say to Caroline and Ben that you are not alone. I and everyone here will continue to support and cherish and love you. We will help you toward understanding and accepting this terrible new reality, a world without your adored mother. We will help you grieve and be sad over your tragic loss. We will help you find ways to remember and honor your mom, and we will find ways to celebrate the joy, and laughter, and love that she brought to the world, to others and most especially to you. You have the love of your grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins and friends, neighbors and schools, and the most loving stepmother Linda and sister Kate that one can imagine. Your mom will not be forgotten.

There are so many tears and so much sadness behind us, and ahead of us. There is no other way to describe the outpouring of love and support that has wrapped its arms around us than overwhelming and deeply helpful. Every message, card, text, and call has conveyed the understanding of the deep and awful sadness that this is for all, especially Caroline and Ben. And every action, plate of food, flower, slide show, clubhouse organizing, pie, every help with the program, has conveyed these supportive feelings even more.

This is the beginning of a long and hard process. We appreciate the offers of help and hands extended, and look forward to having the call or email or visit that will continue to put words to action, and demonstrate the love of a power greater than us, and its manifestation in community. I would like to conclude with words from Ralph Waldo Emerson entitled

To laugh often and much By Ralph Waldo Emerson To laugh often and much;
 to win the respect of the intelligent people and the affection of children;
 to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;
 to appreciate beauty;
 to find the best in others; 
to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition;
 to know that one life has breathed easier because you lived here.
 This is to have succeeded.

I think it is fair to say that on each and every count, Anna Marie Harvey Healey had a life that was a success.

May she rest in peace.

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Services

  • Memorial Service Saturday, March 2, 2013
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Shelley Pfister Grant

July 11, 2013

Dear sweet Carloline and Ben I only just found out about your moms death. I don't know if you even remember me as your Aupair in 2001/2002. Your mom was the most wonderful woman I ever met. She was so loving and sweet and spending a year living with you all is one of my happiest memories. I have albums of photos of you and your mom. I am so sorry to hear of your loss and please know that I am thinking of you both. Your mom was a wonderful woman and I often think of her and was trying to find her on facebook when I found out that she had passed away. I will always love you and you are in my hearts forever Shelley Anne Pfister Grant from South Africa I live in Scotland know. Please look me up on facebook if you want to get in touch.

Karen McCulloch Moody

July 9, 2013

I am just today hearing of this great loss and I am heartbroken. I met Anna through a friend of hers in medical school. She was a great friend, source of comfort and love during hard times. Even though I had not seen her in several years I will miss her dearly. Rest in peace dear friend!!!

The Crocker Family

June 1, 2013

Dear Caroline and Ben,
As the time for Seabeck grows closer I wanted to say how much we will miss your mom. She loved being with you at camp with you two, making crafts, participating with such happiness in the games, having her birthday celebration, hanging out on the porch with a rocking chair and a good book, and of course, playing cards and games. She and I were horseshoe partners your first year and had so many laughs. The mom of a new family who came last year told me that, although she didn't know your mom well she so enjoyed getting to know her playing cards - she was kind and helpful even though they were competing to win the match. Our family is so sorry for her passing and hope that memories and time will help to ease your hearts. With love, Wendy, John, Tommy and Patrick Crocker

April 23, 2013

While we didn't know Anna well, we enjoyed being neighbors, meeting on walks around Blue Ridge, laughing about kids and talking as neighbors do. We send you our sympathy and hold you in our thoughts.

Pam and Tony Puglisi

Susan Schmitz

March 27, 2013

To Anna's family and loved ones,
I went to medical school with Anna and just heard today of her passing. We were very good friends in medical school and even took a summer trip to Italy together during one of the summers. She was always so much fun, always smiling , enjoying everything about life. Her sense of humor was wonderful. She was so full of energy and ready to enjoy every experience. I have many fond memories of our friendship. After med school we were not really in touch except for Christmas cards most years. I just wanted to tell you that even though we had not seen each other in years, I still think of her warmly and remember her wonderful spirit. I am so very sorry for your loss. I do have pictures of our trip somewhere, and if you would like copies, please let me know and I will look for them. my email is sschmitz01@comcast.net Sincerely, Susan (Shapiro) Schmitz

Lynne Carveth

March 20, 2013

For Caroline and Ben,
I did not know your mom well but I am deeply saddened with the news of her death. I will miss her joyous smile and laughter. She was a lovely person and you were very lucky to have her as a mother. Her spirit will live on with you and we will all look forward to hearing of the great things you do in life knowing that your mom was a big part of that.

Serena Halvorson

March 15, 2013

Thank you so much Dr.Harvey,for you kindness,compassion,and good care,I will miss you!Enjoy your peace,my dear!Love,serena

Jillian Worth

March 15, 2013

To those who knew and loved Anna
I had the pleasure of working with Anna for 12 years - she and I shared many patients and my team (Kelly Lawson RN, Kim Leatham MD) relied on her expertise and caring for many of our toughest patients. She was a special type of psychiatrist - took the time to do it the old-fashioned way - and made people feel heard and held. We will miss her!

Carol Cassella

March 12, 2013

Dear Caroline and Ben,

I went for a long walk today and I found myself thinking about your mother, Anna. I was listening to music while I walked, and a song came on that reminded me of her because we had listened to it together—probably dancing, playing, or singing; most certainly laughing! And I felt her there with me on that walk, quite powerfully, not just in the music and my memory, but next to me—really there with me, telling me how much she'd enjoyed the times we spent together, reminding me how important it was to appreciate the way the light fell over the fields and the sounds of the birds and the wind bending the trees. It was absolutely clear to me at that moment that your mom is still here—with the people she cared about. With me and, most especially, with you.

I have so many memories of good times with your mother: a camping trip our families took together one summer when you were very young, and she managed to pack every single food and game a kid could even imagine wanting on a weekend in the woods. The time she brought you and Ben out to the Methow Valley to camp in a tent on our land, and when I warned her there were snakes she just shrugged her shoulders and said it would be part of the adventure. The time we all went to Decatur together and she let you children decorate cookies, not just at the table but all over the room until frosting and sprinkles made every surface a sticky mess. That was fine with her—you were having fun and that was all that mattered.

Your mom was the one who organized trips to the beach and outdoor concerts on the Olympic Peninsula, Easter egg hunts and swimming parties at the Blue Ridge Pool. She loved New Orleans jazz and starry San Juan nights and heated conversations about books and movies over long meals with close friends. She loved her work—helping people sort out the problems in their lives, even when no textbook or pill could make everything perfect and the best medicine she could offer was her endless patience, kindness and willingness to listen. Best of all, your mom loved to laugh, loud and long! and that is a far-too-uncommon attribute among most adults!

Your mother lived intensely and loved intensely, and there was so much more she had to do here, particularly with and for the two of you. If I had to pick one defining fact about Anna it would be summed up in her love for you, her children. I remember when she first found out she was pregnant with you, Caroline, and suddenly everything in her life had a new and profound purpose—loving you. Taking care of you. The first time I went out to dinner with her after your birth she couldn't talk about anything except how beautiful you were, how thoroughly awed she was by every new discovery you made about the world. She was in bliss. She glowed! And you know what? That never changed. In every conversation we had she talked about your talent, your travels, your achievements, your friends.

And Ben, I still remember where we were sitting at a Thai restaurant when she said she wanted another baby, and not long after that she ecstatically told us you were on the way—the happy little boy with the shy smile who I'll always remember propped on your mom's hip like a much doted upon bear cub. Your mom loved to brag about your sports agility, your sense of humor, your quick wit and how much she joy you gave her; all the brilliance she saw in you and the talent you brought into this world.

Anna didn't want to leave you—that is true without a doubt. She would never have wanted to make you so sad. But only part of her has left, the part that can physically touch and hold you. The part of her that loves you will always be here—near you, next to you, walking with you, forever listening to you, watching over and guiding you.

With my own loving thoughts, always,

Carol Cassella
March 1, 2013

Kristina Cruz

March 9, 2013

I've been a patient of Dr. Harvey's for the past 10 years. She was a great doctor and went out of her way more than once to help me. I shared a lot of emotional issues with her, and she was always supportive. I can't believe she's gone but know she's now in a good place. My prayers go out to her family and friends.