John Edward DeMello Sr.

July 16, 1956March 20, 2021

John E. DeMello Sr., 64, of Southington, passed away on Saturday, March 20, 2021 at New Britain General. He was born on July 16, 1956, in Southington, to the late Antonio and Mary (Yorski) DeMello. On August 11, 1979, he married Chong Chi “Jin” (Ok) DeMello in Southington, they were married 41 years.

John graduated from Southington High School in 1974, then began a lifetime of public service. He proudly served his country as an MP in the U.S. Army during the Vietnam Era. John continued his law enforcement career as police officer, protecting the communities of Wiscasset, Maine and Cheshire, Connecticut until his retirement in 1997. After retiring from the Cheshire Police Department, he served as a Hartford County Sheriff and ESPN’s first in-house investigator before retiring again in 2007.

In addition to his career, he volunteered throughout his life, as a firefighter in both the Southington and Bath (Maine) Fire Departments, Commander of American Legion Post 72, an elected official on Southington’s Planning and Zoning Commission, a member of the Southington Conservation Commission, Chairman of the Southington Veteran’s Committee, and other organizations and activities too numerous to list. He was also instrumental in the legislation and design of Connecticut’s first veteran license plate recognizing those that served their country. John tirelessly and selflessly worked to help those most in need, especially veterans and their families, ultimately earning the honor of YMCA’s 2019 Person of the Year.

In addition to his wife he leaves his son, John E. DeMello Jr. and his wife Nicole of Fairfax, VA; a brother Charles DeMello and wife Linda of Maine and two sisters, Joan Procko and husband John and Elizabeth Cardona all of Plainville; sister-in-law Linda DeMello of Marion and many nieces and nephews. He was predeceased by his brother Antone DeMello.

His funeral will be held on Friday, 9:15 am from the DellaVecchia Funeral Home, 211 N. Main St., Southington to St. Dominic Church, 1050 Flanders Rd, Southington for a Mass at 10 am. Burial with military honors will follow at Immaculate Conception Cemetery, Southington. Walk through calling hours will be Thursday from 4-7 p.m. Masks and social distancing will be required at all times.

In lieu of flowers donations may be made to Bread for Life, 31 Vermont Ave., Southington, CT 06489; or Southington Community Services, 91 Norton St., Plantsville, CT 06479; For online condolences and directions please visit,


  • Calling Hours

    Thursday, March 25, 2021

  • Mass of Christian Burial

    Friday, March 26, 2021

  • Burial with Military Honors

    Friday, March 26, 2021


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Sandra Brunoli

March 24, 2021

Caring, compassionate, tireless, always putting others first,, the list goes. A wonderful man that left us too soon. His smile and concern will be greatly missed. My deepest sympathy ..

David Hubbs

March 24, 2021

John was a warm and giving human being.
I worked with him in politics and in the Hartford County Sheriff’s Department.
And each encounter reflected the wonderful human being he was

May peace be to his memory

Lynette Girard

March 24, 2021

Jin & Johnny - I am deeply sorry for your loss!! You both are in our thoughts and prayers!


March 23, 2021

I met John while working at ESPN.. He was both kind and courteous. My love for Iris' began when John brought me a large bushel basket of Iris' and said, "don't worry, they will last forever" and they have. Any time I saw John in town, he was helping at the Historical society, working the Apple Harvest or helping out the veterans. Southington was a better place with him in it, he will be eternal missed.

Elizabeth Chubet

March 23, 2021

To Jin and John,
John was such a pleasure to work with on the Veterans Coffee Hour at the library. It became like a big family that would meet once a month. John would always have interesting speakers come to present to the veterans and always made them feel welcome. His generosity with his time was unprecedented. He did so much for so many. There are no words to express the loss that this community will feel now that he is no longer with us. Thank you both so much for sharing him with us.
My prayers to you both and the extended family.
Liz Chubet

Suzi Porter

March 23, 2021

John will be missed by family, friends, and community. I worked with John for five years at the CPD. We remained friends for 30 years. We shared the love of police work, Shetland sheep dogs, the Catholic faith, and the care of our veterans. Take comfort in knowing he is with our Lord. His memory will live on to inspire us.

Patricia David

March 22, 2021

So sorry to all of John’s loved ones. I drove John and his twin sister to kindergarten, along with my son. He never forgot me, and always asked about me and family . Great man.

Mark Dupuis

March 22, 2021

John and I go back to elementary school. I most recently saw him at a very special Veterans event where he honored our Gold Star families. A true patriot and gentleman. My deepest sympathy to his family.

Pam Martell

March 22, 2021

I work for Johns neighbor Jim. John was always there for his neighbor, the last time I saw John I was shoveling Jim’s driveway when John drove by He came right over with a shovel and said he felt guilty when he saw me shoveling. What a sweet caring guy I thought. The neighborhood has lost a special man, I am very sorry for your loss

Christopher Cote

March 22, 2021

It was an honor to serve at CPD with John. My sincerest condolences to his family. May he rest in peace. Chris Cote