Gerald P. Harney Jr.

December 4, 1936October 15, 2020

Gerald “Jerry” P. Harney, Jr., 83, of Toms River, NJ passed away at his home on Thursday October15, 2020 while surrounded by his loving family. Born in Newark, NJ he was raised in Little Silver NJ before moving to Toms River in 1964. Jerry was a veteran of the US Marine Corp. He was a letter carrier for 33 years for the Toms River Post Office and then worked 20 years for the Toms River Board of Education as the head custodian at Cedar Grove Elementary School. Jerry was a devout member of Christ Episcopal Church in Toms River where he served as a head usher and also was a member of the Men’s Group and Couple’s Club.

Jerry is survived by his loving wife of 62 years Marjorie Hopwood Harney; his daughter Debbie Harney; his son Jerry Harney III and his wife Grail Harney; five grandchildren Kimberly Baynes and her husband Eddie, William Baxter and his wife Krystan, Thomas Baxter, Kayla Harney, and Jerry Harney IV; 4 great-grandchildren Quinn Baxter, Henry Baynes, Sophie Baxter and Maeve Baynes; his brother William Harney. He was predeceased by his two sisters Kathleen Silvers and Caroline Lamb.

Funeral Services at this time are private. A memorial service will be held at a later date. In lieu of flowers donations may be made in Jerry’s memory to Christ Episcopal Church 415 Washington St. Toms River, NJ 08753. Condolences may be sent to the family by visiting


  • Christ Episcopal Church


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Colleen McGrath

October 19, 2020

I met and knew Gerry from my tenure as a 6th grade teacher at Cedar Grove Elementary-1997-2006(?). He was simply the best. He was always, always with a smile and a great sense of humor. Generous and supportive. He set the standard high as a school employee and gentleman. My sincere condolences to the Harney Family. God bless.

Leanne Saviano-Lasko

October 19, 2020

*I had the privilege of re-meeting Mr. Harney at Cedar Grove Elementary School and boy am I glad I did!! My first meeting with Mr. Harney had been at East Dover Elementary School as a student there. He and Mrs. Harney were VERY active in the PTO as were my parents too. I can recall many PTO Fairs where we kids dressed up ad played many games that Mr. & Mrs. Harney organized along with my parents. Then in 1995, I began my career as a teacher and was transferred to Cedar Grove Elementary School. It was there that I met Mr. Harney again(although he wanted me to call him Gerry, he was always Mr. Harney to me). He assisted me with obtaining whatever I needed for my classroom and was ALWAYS there if I needed assistance. He always greeted this early bird with a smile and perhaps a good memory from our East Dover days. I wish comfort and peace to Mrs. Harney and his family. May your memories bring a smile to your faces.

Laura Memoli

October 19, 2020

I just LOVED him!❤

Linda Pascarella

October 19, 2020

I had the honor of working with Gerry at cedar Grove. We all loved him! Once when we were told to keep our windows closed I told him that I couldn’t figure out how to close mine. He looked at me funny because I didn’t even have a window. So being the comedian he was - the next time I went into my room he had drawn and cut out a huge window and covered my black board with it. He left a note “now you have a window”.
Another memory I have is when I lost a diamond earring while carrying a child to the office. Gerry took apart the vacuum and the bag looking for my earring. He didn’t find it but I’ll never forget that he did that.
Prayers for all of you as you begin this sad journey. As Dr Seuss said “Don’t cry because it’s over- smile because it happened”.

Kristal Matthews

October 19, 2020

I met Gerry about 10 years ago when I began working at Cedar Grove Elementary.I knew immediately that he was special.He was incredibly hard-working, funny and a genuinely good guy. The world lost an amazing man and his memory will continue to live on. He will definitely be missed.

Jim Peccarelli

October 18, 2020

Mr Harney was an amazing neighbor growing up. I will always remember Mr Harney always jumping the fence across yards to help my father uncover the pool. He was always quick to help whenever needed. He was always good to us and joked with us constantly as we were children growing up. I will always remember him for his kindness and big heart. He will be missed by our entire family and our entire old neighborhood and many many others. RIP Mr Harney!

Pat Giles

October 17, 2020

I met and knew Gerry Harney thru Debbie Harney , a coworker. Gerry Harney embodied the ideals of the greatest generation, Family , God and Country. I never heard of a single selfish thing that he did. He lived to serve his ideals.
They don’t make them like him anymore.
It was a privilege to meet and know him.

Darren Dietrich

October 17, 2020

The Dietrich family is very saddened by the news of jerry’s Passing... One memory we always talk about was Jerry’s love for the Toms River east basketball team and his love for the referees !!!! ( cough,cough!!!) His loud voice echoing through the gym was priceless!! We laugh still to this day...
To the Harney family.. You are in our thoughts and hearts!! We love you.

Gerald Harney

October 16, 2020

Too many to list.. everyday was a new and loving memory 💔💔

Tom Hopwood

October 16, 2020

I first met Jerry over 60 years ago when he started dating Marge. I liked him from the start. I remember one time when he came to my grammar school and we played basketball on the playground. How awesome it felt that he wanted to spend time with me. When he joined the a Marines, I wanted one day to do the same. I remember how much my sister loves him. Wow! Marge would send him letters when he was stationed on Okinawa and I noticed she would put the stamps upside down on envelopes. When I asked her why, she said it was her way of telling him she loved him. You see they loved each other deeply, a beautiful love story rich with both joys and setbacks that life proffers up. A love story that won’t end with his passing . To me , that is Jerry’s legacy , his living a life of love ... his love of Marge, Debbie , Jerry , Grail, Kayla, Jerry,
Kimberly, Billy and Tommy . You will be missed Jerry and thank you for being a such a wonderful influence in my life. Peace be


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