Margaret Mary DEANE
August 30, 1932 – July 15, 2020
Mary Deane (Nee D’Alesandro) (1932 - 2020) passed away suddenly on Wednesday, July 15, 2020, in Thornhill with her family by her side. Loved wife of 63 years and friend of Bill, mother of Howard (Fran) and Susan (Paul), proud Grandma to Matthew, Thomas, Michael, Jennifer, and Zach, daughter of the late Louise D’Alesandro, predeceased by sister Kay (Bob), loving aunt, and friend to an entire community.
Mary had a remarkable zest for life, an unerring sense of fashion, and an enviable amount of energy that she used to care for her family and the community she loved at the Thornhill Seniors Club. She loved to travel – mostly sunny, warm climates – and being with her family. More recently, she enthusiastically volunteered for more than 15 years at the Thornhill Seniors Club, loving the opportunity to meet new people and bring pleasure to their day. She treasured her friends and, in particular, “lunching with the ladies”.
Mary loved her home with Bill in Thornhill for more than 50 years, where she found pleasure in entertaining family and friends and decorating. She spent many hours tending her beloved garden, proudly sharing it with everyone.
A memorial service with immediate family members is planned. A celebration of life with extended family and friends will take place at a later date.
In lieu of flowers, those who so wish may make memorial donations to the charity of their choice.
Margaret Mary DEANE
July 31, 2020
A great Lady - Tiny but not tiny in Nice or welcoming and caring. She went out of her way to look after lots of things making them sing with best and better. She painted her world with beautiful broad stokes. She will be sorely missed.
July 31, 2020
Mary was indeed a tiny lady. Always fashionable and always smiling and talking in a low voice. She was full of energy and kindness. I remember our trips to Seneca Casino in Niagara Falls New York. She really liked the Duty Free Shop. She enjoyed the gambling and shopping but especially having fun and meals with fellow TSC members. She will be greatly missed. Condolences to her family and friends.
July 30, 2020
I met Mary at the Thornhill Senior's Club whilst she was working in the kitchen and I was working on the reception desk. She greeted everyone with a smile and always had a kind word. Her fashion sense was impeccable, a true fashionista. She will truly be missed. My sincere condolences to her family.
July 29, 2020
She will forever be known to me as Mrs. Deane because that’s how I was taught to address her from the age of seven (close to 40 years ago) but she will always be a Grandma in my heart. So many memories... Many Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter dinners. Stuffing that I over-served myself and was let off the hook by Mrs. Deane when my dad thought I should eat what I served myself (rightly so!). Going to Cats with her in the 80s. Her constant re-telling of me saying ‘I’m almost as tall as you Mrs. Deane’ because she was the first adult that I was almost as tall as (I’m 6’3” and have been since I was 16 or 17). Wish I could have had a last hug. So many more memories, but these are always at the top of the list.
July 29, 2020
Mary, Mary... you went so suddenly leaving us all in shock...the memories of our friendship keep flowing during this past week ... playing bridge in the afternoons...outside so we could tan... our evenings with different girls over the years ending up playing uchure with our group of girls....going every Saturday mornings to Spadina downtown for the bargains on designer clothes.. rain or shine.. umbrella turning inside out getting soaking wet a few times but that never stopped us....our sharing patterns when we made a lot of our clothes...a lot of velour...our many many parties with different friends.. the one new years one where you, me, Bill, Bob and made a circle and sang "you light up my life"...I gave you a music box after that with that song on it... your being at our house often so I would make sure you were eating good meals....when Bill was away...our making a shelter in march in the backyard so we could get a head start on a tan...our trips to the CNE .. and you paying a lot of money for a wrinkle cream without me there.. I made you return it.. they were not happy...but again.. laughed so hard.. more wet pants... our Sunday morning coffee where you would make me listen to your schedule for the next month... confession.. I wasn't listening.. then Bill would get up and we would solve the world politics or he would tell me his latest joke...these are only a few of my memories... you were my friend who I confided in.. trusted and as the song goes... "you light up my life"... i just hope they have a lot of cream and sugar for you up there....always in my heart... Diane
July 29, 2020
It was Mary and me, often working side by side in the vacuous Auditorium of Holy Trinity Church... setting up for the bi annual rummage sale year after year... relentlessly and robotically dumping out or digging into what seemed unending garbage bags of clothing ... and then sorting sorting, sorting...
I was always on the look out for teeny weeny Uber stylish things that just might work for her - and I was never offended if she shook her head when I held something up, because she was pretty darned picky!
One year I recall finding a fabric raincoat, likely about a size 2, white with BIG loud peachy pink flowers - complete with a swing skirt that reminded me of something Twiggy might have worn on Carnaby Street back in the '60's... Mary's eyes lit up when she saw it and immediately stopped what she was doing to put it on... and then she struck a pose...
I'm pretty sure she ended up deciding it was too youthful for her and put it back on the rack. Oh how I wish I had taken a photo... but the picture of this fond remembrance will be forever etched in my memory... and rummage sales going forward won't ever be the same without her.
July 23, 2020
Mary was an extraordinary Volunteer at the Thornhill Seniors Club. Those who visited our Cafe on Friday mornings or attended our Lunches, Cafe events or BBQs, very likely had the pleasure of meeting Mary on Volunteer duty. Known affectionately around TSC as "The Energizer Bunny” (she keeps going, and going..), Mary has been an immense help since the Club's opening over 15 years ago. Always willing to jump in and help – whether serving hot dogs in the sweltering heat of summer, staying late to clean up after a big event or walking through a snow storm for her morning Cafe shift when she couldn’t get her car out of the driveway…she did it all with a smile. Her positivity was contagious and her hard work and dedication unmatched. Among so many things, we will miss her distinctive laugh and wicked sense of humour 🙂 She was a ray of sunshine on a dark day and an inspiration to us all. She will be greatly missed.
~ Cindy Petrow, Brian Bailey and the TSC Board of Directors