Brenda Margaret Haddox Cole

November 1, 1950January 9, 2019

Services for Brenda Margaret Haddox Cole, 68, of Tyler, will be held Tuesday, January 15, 2019, at 1 p.m. at Lloyd James Funeral Home in Tyler. Interment will follow at Frankston City Cemetery.

Brenda Cole was born November 1, 1950, in El Paso and died January 9, 2019, in Tyler. She is the daughter of the late Cecil and Allison Haddox of Concord.

She is survived by her husband of 40 years, Dan F. Cole of Tyler; two stepchildren, Janet Cole Colson and Dan Frank Cole Jr.; two sisters and a brother-in-law, Sandra and Brian McClain, and Pamela Haddox Stokes, all of Lufkin; a sister-in-law, Dr. Sandra Cole of Nacogdoches; three nephews, Scott McClain and wife, Michele, of Birmingham, AL., Todd McClain of St. Cloud, FL, and Patrick Stokes of College Station; a great niece, Lauren McClain, and two great nephews, Connor McClain and Carson McClain.

She was a member of the Methodist Church in Tyler and previously Calvary Assembly of God in Henderson. She was employed by Ramey Base Exchange (BX), Troup Dairy Queen and Eckerd's (CVS) in Tyler for many years.

Brenda attended numerous schools including Harmon AFB; Bitburg Air Base, Germany; Milan, Michigan; and then graduated from Goose Bay High School in Goose Bay, Labrador in 1969, where she was chosen as senior prom queen. After graduation, she took courses in elementary education, psychology and music appreciation at the University of Maryland at Ramey AFB, Puerto Rico.

She held a passion for singing, writing and karaoke and she enjoyed bowling and a variety of crafts. While living in Puerto Rico, Brenda could often be found motoring around Ramey AFB on her beloved Honda motor bike. She was known and loved for her sense of humor, endearing playfulness and contagious laugh.

The family will receive friends and relatives from noon to 1 p.m. Tuesday at Lloyd James Funeral Home, 1011 E. 1st St. in Tyler.


  • Cecil Haddox, Father
  • Allison Haddox, Mother
  • Dan F. Cole, Husband
  • Janet Colson, Step-daughter
  • Dan Frank Cole Jr., Step-son
  • Sandra McClain, Sister
  • Brian McClain, Brother-in-law
  • Pamela Haddox Stokes, Sister
  • Dr. Sandra Cole, Sister-in-law
  • Scott McClain and wife Michele, Nephew
  • Todd McClain, Nephew
  • Patrick Stokes, Nephew
  • Lauren McClain, Great-niece
  • Connor McClain, Great-nephew
  • Carson McClain, Great-nephew


  • Visitation Tuesday, January 15, 2019
  • Funeral Service Tuesday, January 15, 2019
  • Interment Tuesday, January 15, 2019

Brenda Margaret Haddox Cole

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Wlaije Mann

January 19, 2019

One of my fondest memories of time spent with Brenda is speeding down the road on her Honda, and, her laughing her heart out the whole tiime. She introduced me to my future husband, the father of my son. She took part in our wedding, having helped to choose my gown. She was never testy, never a sob story. always loving, always lovely, always a loyal and trusted friend. I loved her back, and truly will greatly miss her. God speed, Brenny. ❤️

David Adams

January 14, 2019

Pamela and Family,

May God hold you in His loving arms during this time of sadness. May He cradle you and your family and protect you as you say goodbye to your dear beloved Brenda Margaret's earthly dwelling. May He send a chorus of His angels to sing of His Heavenly Glory as they surround you with their protective care. Remember that your dear one is singin' and praisin' right there with her Savior as she worships Him in the awesome surroundings of her NEW HOME! Revel in the great memories and enjoy each other's company as you celebrate Brenda Margaret's home-going!

You are in our thoughts and prayers, and our love reaches out to you!

The Adams Family...Dave, Karen, and Katie

Connie Buckner

January 13, 2019

The memory I have of Brenda is from seeing her at the church we both attended - Borinquen Baptist. I remember Brenda as a very cheerful person with a big smile! Always a happy person!!

Jo Anne

January 12, 2019

I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in your memories of Brenda and from others who remember her fondly. Psalms 147:3 says; "He is healing the broken hearted ones and is binding up their painful spots". May these words help your heart as you go through this difficult time. My deepest sympathy.