OBITUARY
Charles Kandare
June 26, 1932 – January 28, 2018
Charles Kandare, age 85, died Sunday at home with his wife, Valerie Kandare, after long battles with cancer and congestive heart failure. Mr. Kandare is survived by his wife, Valerie, and five children: Joanne Gillies, Glenn, Anthony, Charles (Greg) and Wesley. He also leaves behind twenty adoring grandchildren and one great-grandchild on the way.
Charles had a distinguished military career serving over 28 years spanning the Korean War and the Vietnam War including two years in the Army and the rest in the Navy Construction Battalion (Seabees). His service included many duty stations in the U.S. and around the world including Spain, Morocco, Antigua, Diego Garcia and even six months in Antarctica along with serving in New Zealand, where he met his bride of 56 years. He taught his children and grandchildren, by example and personal involvement, the value of hard work, dedication to family, and the importance of a good sense of humor. He grew up in Crosby, PA in an immigrant family from Slovenia as the youngest child of John and Francis Kandare. Charles was a loving, devoted son to his mother, and throughout his life Charles had strong bonds with his brothers and sisters, all of whom have preceded him in death. Charles was unyielding in his love and support for his children, and wholly committed to his beloved wife. He was loved and respected by all who knew him. Charles will be sorely missed. Services will be this Saturday at Rosewood-Kellum Funeral Home with Visitation from 8:30-10 am and the Memorial Service at 10 am. He will be interred in a family plot at Rosewood Memorial Park in Virginia Beach, VA.
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Funeral Service
Saturday, February 3, 2018
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Visitation
Saturday, February 3, 2018
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ADD A MEMORYWesley Kandare
October 25, 2018
It hasn’t been even a year and you are sorely missed. You had a good, long life. You got to travel the world while in the Navy. You left five amazing children and twenty grandchildren. You taught us how to balance hard work with having fun, to be responsible, and frugal. You taught us how to laugh with your many jokes.
We had some good times together. I remember one summer you and I went to Crosby, PA. I got to see all the sites of your youth: your old swimming hole, your childhood home, your grade school, where you first worked, and the bar you went to as a young man. We visited all your family and friends, and caught up on all the small town gossip. You let me drive your pick up (before I had a license) on vacant old country roads. You let me play in the same woods you did as a kid, and shooting an old .22 rifle. On that trip I was a teen growing up and you were remembering your youth.
We spent many a nights playing poker. You always got upset when I called out wild cards since it wasn’t pure poker to you. You also wouldn’t allow me to borrow money at the table because that would make you, “play against your own money.” I loved those games. I loved the ones we played with your family in PA and with our family on our biannual family reunions at Smith Mountain Lake.
You also were always there for me anytime I needed you. You gave me advice about career, girls, family, and always loving your Mother, “since you only get one Mother.” You were always asking me if I needed any cash or help with anything around the house. You always helped me to have a vehicle for all my adult life and hounded me about checking the fluids frequently. You loved having the grandkids over. I remember growing up without grandparents and I wanted to make sure my boys had grandparents close by. I am grateful that we were able to come back to Virginia, and that my boys got to share their early childhood with you.
I love and miss you Dad. Hopefully, I’ll see you on the other side.
Anthony page 2
October 24, 2018
During his last years, I grew to know Dad more as a friend. He looked forward to my visits about once a month or so. He loved to hear about what was happening in my life and my children. He especially liked it when some of my children could visit with me. He really enjoyed trips to McDonalds where he would buy me breakfast, sip coffee, and tell me stories from his life. He would tell me about childhood experiences he’d had with siblings, his Navy escapades like outrunning MP’s with a buddy, to hunting stories when one of us boys missed a deer or he drove in a ditch to go around an accident.
It broke my heart to see the gentle giant of a man who was my father struggle physically. However, even when weak, Dad used what energy he possessed to be involved with life and others. He seemed to have friends everywhere including the McDonald’s busboy, local mechanics, and neighbors. If he could do nothing else, Dad would spend his time sitting on the porch and interacting with occasional neighbors or just looking out the front window and talking with family. He was a true people person and friend to many. I miss my father, my constant support, and my friend.
I love you Dad.
Anthony Kandare
October 24, 2018
I vaguely remember a grizzly-looking bearded man giving me a hug when he returned from Antarctica with everyone gathered around him. Even then people were drawn to him. I was told I had hung up on him when he called from Antarctica (after waiting a long time in the cold, and then waiting again). That was Dad - a man larger than life who was always there for his family and whom everyone loved.
Dad had a way of saying volumes in a few words, and sometimes with just a look or grimace. When I was ready to fly to Australia to serve a two-year mission for the LDS church to which Dad was not a member, he gave me a big hug and said, “No matter what, you can always come home. Just call. I will find a way to bring you back.” I knew he meant it, and it meant so much to me. He always had my back however he could.
Later, as an adult, I was going through tough times with intense divorce-related struggles. Mom and Dad were very loving and supportive throughout those ordeals. On several occasions Dad said something like, “No one else knows what it’s like, unless it’s happened to them. I know. We’re here for you son.” I knew that Dad had had his own experiences with a loved one changing overnight. The love and support from his actions and from those few words were priceless.
Kyle Kandare
October 24, 2018
I loved visiting Granddad and Nana. Granddad was funny and always told jokes. He was happy to see me and was interested in how I was doing. He liked to take me to McDonald’s or 7-11 and tell me stories about when he was young or stories about my Dad. I think he wanted to see me and other people happy around him. I love him and wish I knew him better.
Kyle
(age 11)
Debby Kandare
October 23, 2018
When I first met the whole, lovely Kandare family during the Christmas of 1989, I knew immediately I wanted to be a part of it. Granddad was a large part of that. From day one, he welcomed me wholeheartedly into the family and became more like a true Father than a Father-in-law.
When I would walk in, he would greet me like a long lost friend, “HEyyy, DEB-rahhhh! How you doin’?” He had some other things he said that I vividly remember, such as (and my kids learned this first-thing) “There’s the Golden Arches!” (To this day I think that whenever I pass a Mickey D’s). Granddad would also say, “Eat your DOOF!”
At Christmastime he would say Slovenian names and phrases. Santa sounded like “McCloushe” and the other phrase sounded like “Kay-Daylish”. The kids thought that was so funny. He was always repairing a car or helping us in some way, and we could never, ever leave without Granddad quietly slipping each of the kids a bill of some sort...sometimes I got one too :)
Many others of us have said that Granddad treated them like a best friend or something similar, and I have to agree. Before he started having more serious health issues, he took me by myself to Denny’s :), where we proceeded to polish off hearty breakfasts, and linger far longer than the actual time it took to eat.
Then Granddad began to talk. He told me of his beloved Mother, Frances, and what it was like for him growing up. He spoke generally about the wars he was in (I remember the huge Pythons he would see and fear in Vietnam), and the places he went, and about meeting Nana. Through it all I just listened and asked a few questions when I had them. When he wound down he told me how grateful he was for me and thanked me for listening. He felt like he could talk to me like a real friend.
That day meant so much to me, as did so many others with him. I'm so grateful for Granddad and all the love he gave to all of us. I know one day I will see him again. Until then...<3
Tristan Kandare
October 23, 2018
Some of the best moments I shared with Granddad were in the morning. He would wake me up with a soft tap on the door followed by, “Micky D’s... Five minutes”. The McDonalds visits weren’t just about the food. It was our time to talk about whatever we wanted to. “Who’s on first, what’s on second” was usually how the conversations began lol. He would always ask what I wanted to do or what my plans were, and at the time I didn't have much of a plan, so he would throw tons of advice.
After breakfast we would spend the day doing any chores that he needed my help with. If there wasn't any at the time, we would either watch old war movies (while he explained everything that was happening) or I would be ordered to go dig a hole somewhere until dinner haha. It was the little things that I loved about Granddad. He was always there for me. I will never forget that and I can't wait to see him again.. Love you Granddad
William Kandare
October 23, 2018
I liked spending time with Granddad because we always did something fun and with the family. Nana would always make us those big dinners and Granddad would take us to McDonald’s for breakfast. Then he’d say “eat your doof!”
We would watch Band of Brothers together, Law and Order or Judge Judy. If we weren’t watching one of Granddad’s or Nana’s favorite T.V. shows, Granddad would tell stories of when he was younger or about traveling in the Navy. Once he told me about coming home with a huge beard after being in Antarctica for so long that he scared his kids. Sometimes he talked about his dog Butch.
My Dad would tell us how when they were kids, they used to sneak in Granddad’s bedroom to get the change off his dresser. They had to be careful not to startle him awake, or else he might wake up confused where he was. Now that I’m in the military, I wish he was here to talk to about it, and to see what all of his grandchildren are doing, not just the ones that followed his footsteps and joined the military.
Granddad taught me how to work and how to have discipline. I think he would be very proud of all of his kids and his grandkids and what we are all doing with our lives.
Love you Granddad.
Laura Kandare
October 23, 2018
One of my fondest memories I have about Dad was the first time we met. Wes and I were just engaged and Dad gave me a big hug and welcomed me into the Kandare family. He always made me feel and treated me like a daughter. He was always funny and kind and so happy to see Logan and Blake when we were visiting.
Thanks Dad for your great example of love, for your service to your country and your family legacy.
Love,
your daughter-in-law,
Laura P. Kandare
Anna Kandare
October 22, 2018
Dear Granddad,
Thank you for being the best Granddad ever. I remember all the times you would take me to 7-Eleven to get a Slurpee and some snacks.
The times I remember the most were our Sundays together. If it happened to be a Sunday when we would go to 7-Eleven (you’d get coffee, maybe milk and some snacks or other food and drink, and I’d get a slurpee), we would be questioned by Nana when we returned home. She would want to know if you bought anything for me or if I bought anything because it was Sunday (as I wasn’t supposed to shop on the Sabbath). You would always tell Nana that you bought it and that it was your idea, so that she would get mad at you and not me :) I think Nana always knew, but she never said.
I would love to rewind time and go back to all the fun I had when I was younger. Thank you for all that you have done for me in my life from SML fun to fun at your house, or to breakfast to dinner, or to waking up to sleeping. In other words thank you for EVERYTHING you ever did for me! I love and miss you Granddad, but I know I will see you again.
Love,
Anna.
Zak Kandare
October 22, 2018
In late 2017, I took a family history class to complete one of undergrad credit requirements. The purpose of this class is to learn the skills necessary to do my own family history. Before this time, I have never done any work or learned about my family.
One of the first things I did was learn about the Kandare side of the family. Where did we come from? How long have we been in the United States? What is our story? I was amazed to learn about my Granddad’s story and his family. I learned things that have never been shared in my family before. Not because we didn’t want to share these stories, but because we simply forgot about. As I learned in the class, the professor made a very interesting point. It isn’t all about what has happened. A large part of our family history is what our history is. What are our memories?
My youngest brother was born while we were in Texas. The earliest memory I have is looking outside and seeing Granddad in our front yard. I was very young, but I remember him visiting when my brother was born.
Probably one of the greatest lessons that I have learned in my life is making my own s’mores. When I was young, we went to visit Granddad and Nana at Smith Mountain Lake. I remember one evening he took me in his arms and taught me how to make s’mores. I say it is one of my more important lessons because one of the first dates with my wife was making s’mores at my apartment. The ones we made on the date were much better than the ones that I made as a five-year old. Granddad will be missed. He has had a large impact in my life and his memory will live on through his name.
Love,
Zak
Glenn (page 2) Kandare
October 17, 2018
I very much appreciate your support of our religion as Mom raised us kids in the gospel of Jesus Christ. I appreciate you calling us together for family prayer and guiding us to stay close to the church. I will never forget your advice to seek the help of the local Bishop if life ever becomes a major challenge.
I’m always grateful that you were able to develop strong relationships with my children. Each of them love you and Mom very much. Your guidance and support has shaped each of their lives, and they appreciate the relationship they have developed with their grandparents.
Thank you again for being a loving and amazing Father!! I love and miss you very much.
Love,
Glenn
Glenn Kandare
October 17, 2018
Dearest Dad,
So what does a son say when he has received a lifetime of love and support from his Father? Thank you so much for all that you have done for me and my family! I love and miss you very much!! Even now, I think to reach for the phone to call you and ask a question, or to give a life update.
My earliest memory was as a young boy watching your every move and wanting to do as you did. I remember trying to eat fast, so I could keep up with you while you ate your dinner. My little mouth had to chew fast. When you came home from Antarctica, you gave me a toy tank. I felt so special and enjoyed playing with it for hours.
As I grew, I always appreciated the time that you spent with me and my friends. They enjoyed coming to my house and joking with my “old man” (as they called you). I always cherished sitting on the front porch and just talking, sometimes about the people who weren’t there, as you would jokingly say.
I will always be grateful for the work ethic you instilled in me at an early age. You had a knack of getting us to do the things we considered painful and undesirable. I liked your Saturday morning strategy of getting us up and ready to work by asking what we wanted for breakfast. As we quietly ate, you would update us on the work scope for the day, a great subtle approach.
I certainly appreciate all the repairs you guided and helped me to do. You taught me to be a “do-it-yourself” type of guy. That has been a great blessing in my life, since Deb & I have strived to maintain a house & cars on a family budget.
I enjoyed the many hunting trips that we were able to do together. We had lots of fun in the woods, and I learned many outdoor skills along with the importance of proper preparation.
Blake Kandare
October 14, 2018
Granddad was a nice person. He was in the Navy and he always told me stories about being a Sea-bee! He used to take me and Logan to get slurpees at 7 eleven. Granddad was very funny and was telling jokes all the time. I love and miss him very much!
Love,
Blake
(7 years old)
Logan Kandare
October 14, 2018
I love Granddad very much, and I miss him too. Granddad told us very good jokes. Granddad also told us about his time in the Navy and the places he went while he was in the Navy. He gave us great gifts when we visited him. I love Granddad and I know I will see him again one day.
Love,
Logan
(age 11)
Billy Kandare
October 14, 2018
One of my earliest memories of Uncle Charley was when I was about 12 or 13 years old. My younger brother, Ricky, and I decided to do some practice target shooting in the backyard of Grandma’s house in Crosby. We had hung empty cans on a tree, making it look like a decorated Christmas tree. Neither one of us was any good at shooting a BB gun. Our parents and other extended family members observed us from the back porch and cheered us on if we actually hit a target!!
Uncle Charley then walked out on the back porch and observed us for a few minutes. He then asked if he could have a go at it. He picked up the BB gun and bam, bam, bam… he hit every target!! We were stunned into silence and in awe of his sharp shooting skills. Our jaws dropped as he quietly handed us the gun and went back inside.
Years later I remember Uncle Charley telling me a story of when he was deployed in Morocco. At that time Bob Hope, one of the greatest entertainers, was to perform for the troops. Uncle Charley was assigned to be Bob Hope’s personal driver. After driving Mr. Hope for a short period of time, Bob Hope requested Uncle Charley to be with him for the remainder of his visit. At one point, Uncle Charley even had to hold up cue cards for him (Uncle Charley said that Bob Hope was blind as a bat).
On January 28, 2018, when Uncle Charley left this earth, he arrived in heaven where all of his brothers and sisters were waiting for him. They said, “What took you so long?”
--Billy
Cameron Gillies
October 14, 2018
Since living in California my whole life, I haven’t had the luxury of being able to see Nana and Granddad as often as I would have liked. However, the memories I made with them when we were together will stick with me for a lifetime. Granddad always made me laugh with his funny sense of humor.
Here in Temecula, we don’t have Krispy Kreme Doughnuts. Whenever Kelsi and I would visit, Granddad would treat us to a morning trip to Krispy Kreme. I remember a specific time when Granddad and I were on our way to Krispy Kreme, and we were stopped at a red light. Granddad looked over at me and said “Are you ready?’ and I said, “for what?” and when the light turned green, Granddad stomped the pedal of his pickup and did a nice burnout before heading out into the intersection. I remember thinking that was the coolest thing and telling all my friends about how cool my Granddad was.
--Cameron
Brandon page 2
October 12, 2018
He wanted me to be a mechanic or some job that would teach me a skill that I could use when I got out of the service. I did join the service, however, just like he began his military career, I followed in his footsteps and became an infantry machine-gunner.
I returned home at the age of 19 from a deployment to Afghanistan. My platoon had been through a rough battle where some of our soldiers were killed in action. Two of my close friends were severely wounded and, because of their wounds, will never be the same. I had not spoken to anyone else outside of my platoon about what had happened. It was a very uncomfortable subject to even think about.
However, sitting with my Granddad on his front porch on the red rocking-bench, we began talking about my deployment. He didn’t push. I could tell he understood the fragility of the experience in my mind. He told me some of his experiences and left me to share mine if I felt like it.
This was the first time I had ever heard my Grandfather truly talk about war. I began with a lump in my throat and told him everything that I could manage about what happened. This time we both had coffees. He grabbed my hand that was holding my 7-11 cup and said, “War is Hell, son. I’m just glad you’re home. Don’t feel bad about anything.” The emotional significance of that moment has not hit me harder than it does right now. In those few words my Grandfather had lifted an enormous weight off of my young shoulders and pressure off of my soul.
I am sincerely grateful that I had him in my life as a Grandfather, an instructor, a mentor, and a friend. He has truly blessed me in ways that only my future will show. To all of my uncles, my aunt, cousins, and siblings- "Why do the birds fly south?"
-Brandon
Brandon Kandare
October 12, 2018
I can look back at my childhood and adolescence and say that I had a real relationship with my Grandfather. To me, he was my “Granddad”. To him, I was his “main man”. As silly as it sounds, it hits a hard nostalgic string in my heart to type that nick-name, and I’m truly sad that I will never hear his voice say those words again.
The times I shared with my Granddad, Charles Kandare, are some of the dearest and most influential memories that I will ever have with another human being. He taught me how to drive a stick-shift, he gave me advice about women, and he told me important secrets about life and how to deal with people. “Be nice”, he’d say, “and when you leave, just call them an asshole”. His humor was well-timed, rich with wisdom, and downright funny. He was a man who was rough around the edges, but had the most essential priorities of a life-well-lived in order.
Some of my fondest memories with him will always be sitting on his front porch. He, in his white plastic chair with his coffee in-hand, and me sitting right next to him on the red, wooden rocking-bench with a large slurpee that he got me from 7-11.
Together, we’d sit there and talk about anything. He’d converse with me like I was his peer. When I was a child, I would talk about school and things I would do with my friends. He was a comfortable adult to talk to, and one of my only confidants.
I remember sometimes I would make him laugh way too hard about a situation that seemed trivial to me at the time, but in hindsight, I can now see the hilarity of a child speaking candidly of his life as if he were a “grown-up”. These conversations continued.
He was a military man. He served in both the Korean and Vietnam Wars. He never talked about war. The only things he really talked about from his military days was everything but war. When we talked about my future, he always encouraged me to serve my country.
Greg Kandare
October 10, 2018
As I look back on the life of my Dad, I’m grateful for the many lessons he taught me. He wasn’t one to teach with words or lecturing, but by example. He taught me to work hard; he always was working. Saturday mornings were basically a time to get up early and work around the house with Dad. As a kid, I hated to get up early on a Saturday morning, but it was quality time spent with my dad. And to this day, I feel like I can fix anything, because when I was a kid, we did fix everything.
Some of my favorite memories with Dad was hunting. Work, hunt, play poker, these were essentially the things we did. Most often we hunted at the military base, A.P. Hill, with areas 25 and 28 being our favorites. I hunted many times with Dad and my brothers up there, and we made many memories. The best memories were just eating lunch or hanging out and talking. One such simple memory was Dad and me running and sliding on the ice that had formed in the ruts of a dirt road. We just took turns running and sliding on the ice. It was a simple and special memory.
Dad loved to play poker and was good at it. It was kind of a badge of honor to play poker with him. I’m glad my boys had that opportunity at SML. Once I beat him in a hand at the kitchen table at Grandma’s house. Everyone folded except me and my Dad. I had a strong hand, but with wild cards. I think it was a straight flush or even a royal straight flush. They all told me that you never bet against a “pat hand”. I was scared and almost folded, but I won the hand and he got a lot of flack from his brothers and my cousins.
Perhaps my best memories were our weekly Sunday phone calls. We would just talk about the weather, what was going on with family members or just life. Sometimes those conversations were long, and sometimes they were pretty short. But they were always special to me. I wish we could have those conversations again. I miss him and the influence he had on me and all of those around him.
Jace Kandare
October 10, 2018
When I was still pretty young at one of the early Smith Mountain Lake (SML) reunions, Granddad gave me a ten dollar bill. He told me not to tell anyone that he gave it to me, and that it would be our little secret.
Since I was so young at the time, it didn't take me long to start bragging about the $10 and showing it off to all my cousins. At first I refused to tell them where I got it from, but eventually they broke me down, and I confessed that Granddad had given me the money. Immediately they all went to Granddad asking for cash.
My Mom and Dad made me apologize to Granddad. At first I was worried he'd be mad at me, but he forgave me immediately.
I loved playing poker at the SML reunions with Granddad. When we were young, we didn't get to play with him much. Instead we were always put at the kids' table. I remember practicing at the kids' table, hoping some day to be good enough to eventually play with him.
I remember when Granddad finally let all of the older cousins play with him, he had no problem taking our money. I guess he got me back for that $10!
Chloe Kandare
October 9, 2018
Going to Nana & Granddads has always been one of my favorite things to do as I was growing up. First thing Granddad and I would usually do was to take a ride down to 7-11, so I could get a slurpee and he’d get his coffee. Sometimes, he’d buy me a lottery ticket. We’d ride back to the house and sip on our treats while talking on the front porch. Sometime later he’d tell his joke of, “Why did the birds fly south?” I'd reply, “because it’s too far to walk”. Whenever we were having a really good time he'd say, “I wonder what the poor people are doing today?”
I have memories of hanging out with Granddad at Smith Mountain Lake where we’d drive his green truck down to the gas station for a treat and also to the docks. I can remember the big smile he’d have on his face when he was surrounded by all the family. I loved just hanging out with Granddad and hearing stories about his Mother, growing up in Crosby, his time in the military, and his wife and kids. You could always tell how much he loved his family. He always made it a point to tell me family is the most important thing. He’d also give me other life lessons about saving money and learning to work hard, and then he’d usually slip me some money.
When I became older and moved further away, I loved calling and catching up with Granddad every Sunday. He always told me how much he loved me and missed me, and always made it clear that he was here for me if I needed anything at all. When I was preparing for a mission, I got to talk to him about the church. It always warmed my heart to hear how much he loved the church, even though he wasn’t a member. He would tell me a mission and staying close to the Lord were two important things in my life.
If there was anything I learned from Granddad, it was to love your family and to always have a good sense of humor. I miss laughing at his jokes, and hearing him call me "Chlo Chlo". I can't wait for the day when I get to see him again. I love you Granddad!
Chloe
Jayne Brown
October 9, 2018
I feel blessed to have been able to spend so much time with Granddad, as a child and even into adulthood. It seems like the little things are the most memorable to me.
As a child, I remember runs to McDonald’s and 7-Eleven in his truck. The AC had to be either all the way hot or all the way cold. There was often the jingle of polka music playing in the background and the strong smell of 7-11 coffee in the air. I would be sucking down a slurpee or snacking on one of those butterscotch candies he always kept in his truck (never liked them much).
As an adult, I looked forward to my Sunday dinners with Nana and Granddad. After dinner, Granddad and I would lay back and watch Band of Brothers. He would tell me stories of his life and I would soak it all in. I miss those nights and I will always miss him. I look forward to the day I can see him again.
Love you Granddad,
Jayne
Valerie Kandare
October 8, 2018
In 1960, I was working at a psychiatric hospital in Christchurch, NZ. At that time, the US Navy had a base there to support for activities in Antarctica. My future husband, Charles, was stationed in Christchurch from Nov. to Jan. in 1959-‘60, ‘60-‘61 and ‘61-‘62 as part of Operation Deep Freeze, Summer Support.
We were fortunate enough to meet in early 1960 and to date each summer. We were married at the end of his 3rd tour in Jan. 1962 in my hometown of Dunedin, NZ.
Both of us loved being parents to our 5 children and spending family time together, and we struggled with occasional overseas deployments without family. Fortunately, we were able to enjoy being together throughout much of his Navy career.
Charles was a great husband & father, and was very good at remembering birthdays and special occasions. He enjoyed doing projects with his children and teaching them along the way. He also enjoyed taking family vacations including a trip to Disney World. He especially loved visiting his homestead in Crosby, PA, where we spent time with his mother, his siblings and their children.
Charles was quietly a very giving man. He strongly supported my and the children’s membership in the LDS church including all four sons serving church missions. He often cooked Sunday dinners for us to enjoy after we returned from church services.
He also quietly helped many church members and neighbors during times of need, such as repairing vehicles and doing household repairs.
Charles had a great sense of humor and loved relaxing with friends and family. He especially enjoyed time with grand-children in recent years, and looked forward to their visits. He was loved by his family and friends and is sorely missed. I look forward to seeing my beloved husband, partner and close friend again.
Love,
Valerie
Jeff Gillies
September 27, 2018
I am proud and lucky to have such a fine man as my Father-in-Law. Charles (Dad) diligently partnered in providing for and raising five exceptional human beings. I have the great fortune of Joanne as my bride, and I attribute her endless generosity, love and devotion to the solid values she acquired from the example and guidance of her fine parents.
I felt an immediate bond when I entered the Charles Kandare family, and I have since felt I fully belong to this extraordinary group of people, who love and respect each other immensely.
Dad endured a great deal during his admirable life. He was raised during the Great Depression, proudly served in two wars, and consistently sustained the many and varied needs of his grateful family. He did so without complaint and was a constant reliable source of strength and humor for those who were blessed to be among his substantial family, friends and associates. We will all miss you greatly Dad. Thank you for everything!
Jeff
Kelsi Gillies
September 24, 2018
Although he lived across the country, the handful of times I got to see Granddad resulted in memories that I will cherish for the rest of my life.
One of the fondest memories I have with him was our traditional Krispy Kreme runs whenever my family came to visit. He would load Cameron and me into the car, and speed off down the street, gunning through yellow lights, and overall driving with controlled chaos with Garth Brooks blasting in the background.
We would arrive, and Cameron and I would sit, mesmerized by the production of the glazed donuts displayed through the glass window. Granddad would sit down, quietly drinking his coffee contentedly.
I also remember the silly names he would give to me; calling me “early bird” or “squirty germ”. One day he sat me in the living room and taught me to play chess. I observed him as he played, watching as his silent concentration and unspoken patience manifested in his playing ability.
Seeing him in the hospital was difficult. His humorous demeanor had grown dim, and his eyes were filled with sadness and weariness. Seeing him like that, I knew his life was coming to a close, but I couldn’t help but smile at what a life he had lived.
He had married a beautiful, wonderful woman who has been the greatest Nana I could ask for. He had five inspiring kids, who he loved and cared for more than anything. He served with honor in the military for the greatest country in the world.
He touched all those who knew him, with his goofy but noble, quiet but dignified, and subtle, but impactful example. I miss and love him every day, and couldn’t be more thankful for God blessing me with him as my Granddad.
Kelsi
Joanne Gillies
September 23, 2018
I have many fond memories of my father, Charles Kandare. However, the fondest memories are seeing him be the happiest and most relaxed when he was either going back to his boyhood home of Crosby or going deer hunting with friends or family.
These two activities were things he relished the most and looked forward to with anticipation (just like a kid on Christmas morning). While in Crosby, he loved to play poker. I remember falling asleep upstairs at Grandma’s house listening to the sounds of poker playing below. Years later, this tradition carried on at our Smith Mountain Lake family vacations.
Dad taught us how to work hard; Saturdays were not a day to lounge around. We were taught to get up early and get things done such as working on cars, cleaning out the garage, doing household chores, etc. This work ethic has helped me throughout my life to become more productive in my personal and work environment.
Dad was also good about teaching us kids organizational and life skills. Being the only girl with four brothers, Dad made sure I knew how to check the oil in the car, put air in the tires, etc. This knowledge came in quite handy when I went away to college.
Once when my boyfriend, Craig, and I were at church, I had left my lights on my truck. As a result, my battery had died and I needed to jump start my truck. My boyfriend had no clue how to do this! I remember being in my church dress with high heels directing Craig what to do as I jump started my truck. I recall losing respect for Craig that day, as I wanted to marry a man that could be like my father and handle things. I'm grateful that I married such a man in Jeff.
Even though Dad was deployed many times when I was growing up, I always felt that he was there for us. No matter what we needed, whether financial or emotional, he was there to help out. He did the best he could, and would do or give anything to help his family. His was a great example to me and I love and miss him so much.
Love,
Joanne
Richard (Ricky) Kandare
September 19, 2018
I have many fond memories of my "Uncle Charley". He had a great sense of humor. Whenever I'd see him, we'd both enjoy making the other one laugh with funny stories and corny jokes. Afterward, it would take me about a day or two to recover the feeling of the muscles on my face used in laughing and equally as long to have my belly muscles recuperate from all of the belly laughs. The funniest ones though to both of us were moments that we shared together with family.
One of those moments that immediately comes to mind is when my dad and I were about ready to play a game of horseshoes with Uncle Charley and Jiggs. Before we even started, Uncle Charley flashed his hands showing us all of his fingers on both hands (very clearly like a magician), and said to all of us, "I cut off a finger every time I lose a game of horseshoes!!!" Having all of his fingers on both hands, one could then surmise that he's never lost a game of horseshoes in his life. We all laughed and when we all bowed in our laughter, we all saw at the same moment that on one of Jiggs' hands, he was missing two of his fingers. What might have been an awkward moment turned into a bigger laugh when Uncle Charley pointed to Jiggs' hand and said, "I see that you've already lost a couple of games!!!" Nobody laughed harder than Jiggs...
That's just one of a thousand fond moments that I shared with Uncle Charley. Second, only to my own Dad, he was a hero to me. And second, only to my Dad, he was my best audience for jokes and funny stories. We all enjoyed nothing more than to make each other smile and laugh. Together, it was always like we were sharing an inside joke with each other. I miss both of them. I can imagine them playing horseshoes in heaven with Jiggs now.
Ricky
Beverly Kronenburg
February 2, 2018
Valerie, my prayers are with you and your family during this time of grief. I know how much you and Charles loved each other and he spoke of you often with kind and loving words. He was so proud of his grandchildren. Charles was a kind and friendly person who brought friendship to my husband who grieves today for his best friend. Charles was a person who was always willing to help a person in need. Rest in peace my friend.
The Duncan's
February 2, 2018
With Heartfelt Sympathy to the Kandare Family,
May you rely on the God of all comfort to help you to endure the days ahead.
" God is our refuge and strength "
( Psalms 46 : 1 )
February 1, 2018
Sunday I lost my best friend. We spent many times together reliving our Naval careers and solving the worlds problems. He was a true friend who would do anything to help when ever I needed it. He was a kind thoughtful person with a sense of humor. I will miss him very much but know that he is with God and not suffering anymore. Someday I will see him again and we will take up where we left off with our war stories and a good cup of coffee. Rest in peace my dear friend.
Darla Johnson
January 31, 2018
Valerie, my heart goes out to you and your family during this difficult time and share in your sorrow. With love and friendship.
Thelma McSkimming
January 29, 2018
In Loving memory of a much loved brother in law and Uncle - going to miss our phone calls so much!
Thelma, Jim and family in NZ.
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This is the home that Charles grew up in Crosby, Pennsylvania, and a place where many family vacations were spent.
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Charles' Mother, Frances Ozbolt Kandare.
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John Joseph Kandare
(Charles' Father)
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Charles, with his beloved Mother.
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Charles, his two brothers (William and Frank), with their Mother.
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Charles left home at the age of eighteen and joined the Army, where he served for two years. Later he joined the Navy and served many tours around the world, including Antarctica.
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While serving the Navy in New Zealand, Charles met a beautiful young woman named Valerie Loma Padman.
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Last minute adjustments for the bride.
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Beautiful bride!!
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Charles and Valerie wed on January 27, 1962, in Dunedin, New Zealand.
Wesley Padman (father of bride) is photographed with the happy couple.
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The wedding party with Valerie's niece, Karen Liggins, as the flower girl.
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Charles adoring his new bride!
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Joanne Marie Kandare was born on August 30, 1962, in New Zealand. Unfortunately, Charles was deployed back to America before she was born. Charles was able to see his daughter for the first time in Virginia, when she was two months old.
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Joanne growing up!
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Joanne in Antigua, West Indies.
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Glenn Charles Kandare was born on December 22, 1963, in Norfolk, Virginia.
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Paternal Grandmother, Frances Kandare, with Joanne and Glenn in 1964.
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Joanne & Glenn in Antigua, West Indies, where they lived for almost three years.
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Glenn's first birthday!!
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Can Glenn fill his Daddy's shoes?
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Charles & Valerie with Glenn & Joanne
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Anthony Wesley Kandare was born on July 31, 1965, in Antigua, West Indies.
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Anthony (one month old) with older siblings, Joanne & Glenn.
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Charles with his infant son, Anthony.
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Enjoying the Caribbean beach in Antigua, West Indies.
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Leaving Antigua in April 1966. Our maid, Ruth, was there at the airport to wish us farewell.
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First professional family photo.
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Glenn, Joanne & Anthony outside our Navy housing home in Great Lakes, Illinois.
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Charles serving in Vietnam 1967
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Charles Gregory (Greg) Kandare was born on October 27, 1968, in Great Lakes, Illinois.
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While Charles was stationed in Antarctica, his wife and children lived in Mosgiel, New Zealand at 5 Goodall Street.
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Dressed in our Sunday best!
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Glenn, Anthony, Greg & Joanne in Cromwell, New Zealand.
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Charles, (recent return from Antarctica with his bushy beard), Valerie and her father, Wesley, and Greg.
Photo taken in the backyard of the home Valerie grew up on 51 Ryehill Street, Dunedin, New Zealand.
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Christmas 1976 in our Gulfport, Mississippi, home while our father was stationed in Diego Garcia.
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Wesley Padman Kandare, was born on January 25, 1977, in Biloxi, Mississippi.
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Photo taken in our Mississippi home with our Maternal Grandfather, Wesley Padman, who visited us from New Zealand.
Charles, Joanne, Valerie (holding baby Wesley), Granddad Padman, Anthony, Glenn & Greg in front.
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Charles & Valerie going to the military ball in Virginia.
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Charles Kandare retires from the military in Virginia after serving in the Navy for 26 years.
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Charles, Valerie & Wesley in front with Anthony, Glenn, Joanne & Greg in the back.
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Wesley helping Dad work on a go-cart in front of their Virginia Beach home. Notice the cast on Wesley's left leg. He broke both lower leg bones when he got hit by a car walking home from school.
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Charles loved his trucks and his wife!
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Charles loved to fix up and tinker with vehicles. He would call himself an "under the tree mechanic".
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Man's best friend, Butch!! Charles and Butch had a very close bond. Butch would wait by the door every afternoon waiting for his master to return home.
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Butch seemed to sense that Charles needed to be awaken very carefully after fighting in two Wars. When Butch needed to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night, he would gently lay his paw across his master's chest until he awakened.
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Butch always gets a bone for Christmas!
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This was our favorite family vacation venue! After Charles retired from the Navy, we would come home to "Grandma's house" every summer. We loved to hike the surrounding hills, ride quads, go fishing and horseback riding, and visit with our extended family.
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Greg relaxing with his parents on the Crosby porch.
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Lazy day in Crosby with Joanne reading on the front porch and Wesley working with Dad. Notice that Butch is always on guard and never far from his master.
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Glenn going along for the ride with his Dad.
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Charles and Wesley swimming in Denny's pool in Crosby. Rare photo of Charles just relaxing, as he's usually anxiously engaged in many activities.
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Deer hunting is a passion of Charles second to going home to Pennsylvania. Being able to both is a treat.
Photo taken in Crosby with his brother, Frank and his nephew, Denny (Frank's son).
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Charles with his siblings:
Frank, Stephie, Bill, and Josephine.
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Kandare siblings in Crosby with their spouses:
Mary & Bill, Stephie, Valerie & Charles, Josephine & Melvin, Arlita & Frank.
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Joanne & Jeff marry on June 13, 1992, in the Las Vegas Temple.
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Greg, Glenn, Anthony & Wesley with Charles, Joanne & Valerie.
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Love you Dad!
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Jeff & Joanne come home to visit in Virginia beach from California. Photo taken with Charles & Butch in the backyard.
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Cameron, Joanne, Jeff and baby Kelsi.
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Being sealed together as a family in the Mount Timpanogas Temple. October 2001
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Kelsi and Cameron going back in time.
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Kelsi working the camera!
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2003 Gillies Family picture in Temecula, California.
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Jeff, Joanne, Cameron & Kelsi in San Diego, California. April 2017
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Glenn & Debby marry on May 11, 1990, in the Washington D.C. Temple.
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Glenn & Debby starting their family!
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Weee.....having fun being a kid again!
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Happiness is being a Granddad!!
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Glenn & Granddad with Jayne and Brandon.
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A perfect summer day to enjoy a dinner in Glenn's backyard in Franklin, Virginia.
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Grandad & Jayne while on vacation in Crosby.
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Granddad visiting Chloe in her Franklin, Virginia home.
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Glenn (holding baby Anna), Debby, Jayne, William, Chloe, Brandon & Tristan.
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Brandon's baptism with his father, Glenn, and his grandparents.
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Brandon, William, Jayne, Debby, Glenn, Anna, Chloe & Tristan.
(William & Tristan are fraternal twins)
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Brandon serves in the Army.
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Beautiful sisters, Jayne & Chloe.
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Jayne and Matthew (Matt) marry on February 13, 2015, in the Washington D.C. Temple.
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Anthony serves in the Army National Guard (Sergeant E-5 when enlisted and First Lieutenant AA Officer)
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Anthony graduates from BYU with a degree in Mechanical Engineering.
Wesley, Glenn, Anthony, Charles, Greg & Valerie.
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Anthony & Laurine marry on September 7, 1994, in the Salt Lake City Temple.
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Anthony loves being a Father!
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Baby Ryan checking out his new grandparents!
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Granddad getting on the floor with Ryan, whose not yet crawling.
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Granddad & Nana with Ryan.
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Anthony's family photo taken in the backyard of their Maryland home.
sitting (L>R): Ryan, Valerie, Anthony (holding Alyssa), Laurine, (holding baby Kyle) & Tony.
standing (L>R) Chad & Sean
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Tony, Chad, Ryan & Anthony visiting sites while on a cross-country drive from Maryland to Utah.
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Chad visiting the family while on leave from the Navy.
Sean, Anthony, Chad, Ryan, Valerie, Alyssa with Kyle in front of his Father.
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Greg & Laura marry on April 25, 1992, in the Jordan River Temple, Utah.
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Zachary, Jace and baby Spencer.
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Family picture including Bella, the dog.
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Photo taken while living in Wellington, Florida.
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Zak, Spencer, Greg, Laura and Jace in the Utah mountains.
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Zak and Heidi marry on July 15, 2017, in the Timpanogas Temple in American Fork, Utah.
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Wesley and Laura marry on October 12, 2002, in the Washington D.C. Temple.
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Granddad & Logan (Wes & Laura's first born)
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Christmas with Logan.
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Blake joins the family! Granddad is there for his blessing.
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Logan's baptism with his younger brother, Blake, Uncle Glenn, and his Grandparents.
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Logan & Blake helping Granddad in his garage.
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Granddad & Logan by Wesley's backyard pond.
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Logan enjoying his grandparents reading to him at his house.
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Granddad teaching Logan how to mow the grass the easy, fun way!
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Logan sharing a birthday celebration with his Granddad!
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Blake enjoying Fourth of July porch time with Granddad.
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Laura, Blake, Wesley & Logan.
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Smith Mountain Lake is where we have had our Charles Kandare family reunion every other year since 2000.
Each nuclear family rents their own cabin and we spend a wonderful week together on the lake. At first we would all rent one houseboat, and now as each family has grown, we rent our own ski boats. It's a time of strengthening our family bonds and creating new memories.
Smith Mountain Lake has now become our Crosby vacations.
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Our only professional family photo taken at Smith Mountain Lake in 2002 with nuclear family color coded T-shirts.
Light Blue.....Mom & Dad
Teal................Joanne's family
Dk Blue.........Glenn's family
Yellow...........Anthony's family
Red................Greg's Family
Orange..........Wes & Laura
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Cousins growing up at Smith Mountain Lake!
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Granddad and Debby enjoy boating on Smith Mountain Lake.
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After lake time, Glenn & Granddad have clean up duty.
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Having a Luau on the Houseboat to celebrate Granddad's 70th birthday!
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Granddad enjoying the experience of holding Kelsi while she sleeps on the houseboat.
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Granddad & Kelsi having a "thumbs up" time at SML.
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Logan in the back of Granddad's truck!
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Granddad loves Laura, and her amazing home-cooked meals.
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Fathers & sons bonding time!!
Wesley with his son, Logan. Glenn with his son, Brandon and Charles with his sons and grandsons.
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Granddad enjoying dinner with Anna & Brandon.
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The Kandare family is growing...
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Valerie & Charles enjoying quality time by the camp fire. Spending a week with their posterity at Smith Mountain Lake is true happiness.
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Alyssa, Valerie & Kelsi behind Brandon & Granddad.
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Granddad is the man, as his grandsons show how much they love him.
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Spencer lives in Round Rock, Texas, and is happy to be spending rare time with his Granddad!
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Joanne loves her Dad!
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Brandon & Granddad enjoying camp fire time.
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Living in California, Joanne & Jeff don't get to see the Kandare family very often. Being at SML every two years is special family time.
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Best part of the evening is relaxing with family.
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Chloe loves her Granddad.
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Laura & Greg enjoying quality, relaxing time.
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Tony's baptism to be performed by his father, Anthony, at Smith Mountain Lake.
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Anna & Granddad
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Brothers going fishing.
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Laura, Greg & Zak with Jace and Spencer up front.
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Sean, Anthony, Ryan and Chad
with Tony, Valerie and Alyssa up front.
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Fun day at the lake with Anthony's family in the boat and William & Cameron standing on the dock.
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Inside Mom & Dad's cabin at SML. Anthony, Greg, Glenn & Wes standing behind their parents and sister, Joanne in front.
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Granddad walking to the docks.
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Family time!
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Silly times with the family!
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William & Cameron want to make sure they don't get sunburned!
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Granddad leading the way!
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Wesley & Logan looking cool with their shades!
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Best way to end a day on the lake.
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Cousins having fun!!
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One evening at SML, we rent out the local fire hall to have a dinner together, watch movies, and play games (especially poker with Granddad).
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It's poker time!
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We all celebrated Nana & Granddad's 50th Wedding anniversary at the fire hall in 2012. A family gift was given of a book (with pictures and individual letters) celebrating their Golden Anniversary.
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Valerie & Charles opening their 50th anniversary gift.
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Granddad enjoying his sugar free cake!
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Granddad with his first grandchild, Jayne.
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Wesley's family wishing Nana & Granddad a Happy Golden Anniversary!
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Joanne with her Father.
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I wonder who's winning? Granddad seems to have quite the pile of change.
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Hmmmm...does Granddad owe Tristan some money??
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Glenn hanging with his Dad.
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Going out to breakfast is a treat for the adults in the Kandare family at Smith Mountain Lake.
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Kyle is always happy and smiling.
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Brandon spending time with his grandparents on their cabin's front porch.
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Joanne with her parents outside their SML cabin.
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Charles & Valerie with all their sons: Greg, Glenn, Wesley & Anthony.
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Everyone is growing up!
Ryan, Sean, Brandon, Granddad, Glenn, Wesley, Zak, Jeff, Tristan, Jace & Spencer.
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Wesley and Zak look like they are related.
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Happiness is being the father of these four great sons!!
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Brothers, Glenn & Wesley
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Tristan loves his Granddad, whom he affectionately calls "Sarge".
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Tristan & "Sarge"
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Tristan is the gentleman to escort Nana up the hill to her cabin.
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It wouldn't be a vacation without a trip to Krispy Kreme with the grandkids.
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Going antique shopping is a tradition for Joanne & Granddad at Smith Mountain Lake.
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Granddad sharing a laugh with Greg.
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Family time in Glenn's backyard in Wilmington, North Carollina.
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Having dinner in Wesley's backyard in Virginia Beach, Virginia.
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Granddad with his two broken fingers!
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Dad and Joanne outside the military home in Little Creek, Virginia, where they used to live when Joanne was a baby.
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Sean & Alyssa with their Granddad and Uncle Wesley.
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A long day for Wesley and Granddad as they both catch their Zzzzz's.
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Proud Veteran!!
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Merry Christmas!
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Granddad loves it when Debby stops by for a visit.
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Wow...Nana turns 80!!
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Nana and Granddad watching "Judge Judy".
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Porch time is a special place to visit with Granddad.
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Anna taking time to visit her Granddad in the hospital.
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Blake & Logan with their new glasses visiting Granddad at his house.
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A rare photo of Anthony and all his children with Grandad & Nana.
Kyle, Anthony, Chad, Tony, Valerie, Alyssa standing behind Grandad, Nana, Sean & Ryan.
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Brandon loves hanging with his Granddad.
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William loves his Granddad.
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Granddad loves Jayne & Matt.
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Granddad & Kelsi are still giving the thumbs up!
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Granddad, Nana, Joanne, Jeff, Kelsi and Cameron.
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Greg taking a selfie with his Father.
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Joanne receives a hug from her Father.
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Anthony & Kyle drive from Maryland to visit Granddad.
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Joanne & Kelsi fly from California to see Granddad.
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Our family is there for each other!!
(Kelsi & Chloe at Granddad's bedside).
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Granddad is happy to have Laura at his hospital bedside.
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Granddad is feeling the love of his family, as they visit from near and far, to support him and be with him during his hospital stay.
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Celebrating Charles' 85th Birthday!
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Chloe spending time with her Granddad in his home.
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Wesley helps his Dad out of his bed to his favorite chair, where he can look out the window.
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The family comes together to celebrate the life of Charles Kandare at his funeral on February 3, 2018, in Virginia Beach.
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Ryan admiring his Granddad's military awards and accomplishments.
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Pall bearers line the casket as the American Flag is placed over the coffin.
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Charles received a Military funeral complete with taps, gun salute and presentation of the American flag to Valerie.
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Nana with her Granddaughters: Alyssa, Chloe, Anna & Valerie.
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Joanne, Glenn, Greg, Anthony & Wesley in front of their Father's final resting place.
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Valerie visiting her husband's grave for the first time after the funeral.
God be with you until we meet again...
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This is the home that Charles grew up in Crosby, Pennsylvania, and a place where many family vacations were spent.
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Charles' Mother, Frances Ozbolt Kandare.
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John Joseph Kandare
(Charles' Father)
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Charles, with his beloved Mother.
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Charles, his two brothers (William and Frank), with their Mother.
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Charles left home at the age of eighteen and joined the Army, where he served for two years. Later he joined the Navy and served many tours around the world, including Antarctica.
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While serving the Navy in New Zealand, Charles met a beautiful young woman named Valerie Loma Padman.
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Last minute adjustments for the bride.
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Beautiful bride!!
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Charles and Valerie wed on January 27, 1962, in Dunedin, New Zealand.
Wesley Padman (father of bride) is photographed with the happy couple.
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The wedding party with Valerie's niece, Karen Liggins, as the flower girl.
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Charles adoring his new bride!
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Joanne Marie Kandare was born on August 30, 1962, in New Zealand. Unfortunately, Charles was deployed back to America before she was born. Charles was able to see his daughter for the first time in Virginia, when she was two months old.
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Joanne growing up!
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Joanne in Antigua, West Indies.
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Glenn Charles Kandare was born on December 22, 1963, in Norfolk, Virginia.
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Paternal Grandmother, Frances Kandare, with Joanne and Glenn in 1964.
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Joanne & Glenn in Antigua, West Indies, where they lived for almost three years.
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Glenn's first birthday!!
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Can Glenn fill his Daddy's shoes?
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Charles & Valerie with Glenn & Joanne
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Anthony Wesley Kandare was born on July 31, 1965, in Antigua, West Indies.
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Anthony (one month old) with older siblings, Joanne & Glenn.
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Charles with his infant son, Anthony.
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Enjoying the Caribbean beach in Antigua, West Indies.
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Leaving Antigua in April 1966. Our maid, Ruth, was there at the airport to wish us farewell.
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First professional family photo.
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Glenn, Joanne & Anthony outside our Navy housing home in Great Lakes, Illinois.
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Charles serving in Vietnam 1967
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Charles Gregory (Greg) Kandare was born on October 27, 1968, in Great Lakes, Illinois.
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While Charles was stationed in Antarctica, his wife and children lived in Mosgiel, New Zealand at 5 Goodall Street.
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Dressed in our Sunday best!
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Glenn, Anthony, Greg & Joanne in Cromwell, New Zealand.
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Charles, (recent return from Antarctica with his bushy beard), Valerie and her father, Wesley, and Greg.
Photo taken in the backyard of the home Valerie grew up on 51 Ryehill Street, Dunedin, New Zealand.
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Christmas 1976 in our Gulfport, Mississippi, home while our father was stationed in Diego Garcia.
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Wesley Padman Kandare, was born on January 25, 1977, in Biloxi, Mississippi.
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Photo taken in our Mississippi home with our Maternal Grandfather, Wesley Padman, who visited us from New Zealand.
Charles, Joanne, Valerie (holding baby Wesley), Granddad Padman, Anthony, Glenn & Greg in front.
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Charles & Valerie going to the military ball in Virginia.
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Charles Kandare retires from the military in Virginia after serving in the Navy for 26 years.
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Charles, Valerie & Wesley in front with Anthony, Glenn, Joanne & Greg in the back.
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Wesley helping Dad work on a go-cart in front of their Virginia Beach home. Notice the cast on Wesley's left leg. He broke both lower leg bones when he got hit by a car walking home from school.
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Charles loved his trucks and his wife!
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Charles loved to fix up and tinker with vehicles. He would call himself an "under the tree mechanic".
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Man's best friend, Butch!! Charles and Butch had a very close bond. Butch would wait by the door every afternoon waiting for his master to return home.
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Butch seemed to sense that Charles needed to be awaken very carefully after fighting in two Wars. When Butch needed to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night, he would gently lay his paw across his master's chest until he awakened.
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Butch always gets a bone for Christmas!
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This was our favorite family vacation venue! After Charles retired from the Navy, we would come home to "Grandma's house" every summer. We loved to hike the surrounding hills, ride quads, go fishing and horseback riding, and visit with our extended family.
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Greg relaxing with his parents on the Crosby porch.
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Lazy day in Crosby with Joanne reading on the front porch and Wesley working with Dad. Notice that Butch is always on guard and never far from his master.
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Glenn going along for the ride with his Dad.
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Charles and Wesley swimming in Denny's pool in Crosby. Rare photo of Charles just relaxing, as he's usually anxiously engaged in many activities.
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Deer hunting is a passion of Charles second to going home to Pennsylvania. Being able to both is a treat.
Photo taken in Crosby with his brother, Frank and his nephew, Denny (Frank's son).
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Charles with his siblings:
Frank, Stephie, Bill, and Josephine.
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Kandare siblings in Crosby with their spouses:
Mary & Bill, Stephie, Valerie & Charles, Josephine & Melvin, Arlita & Frank.
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Joanne & Jeff marry on June 13, 1992, in the Las Vegas Temple.
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Greg, Glenn, Anthony & Wesley with Charles, Joanne & Valerie.
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Love you Dad!
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Jeff & Joanne come home to visit in Virginia beach from California. Photo taken with Charles & Butch in the backyard.
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Cameron, Joanne, Jeff and baby Kelsi.
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Being sealed together as a family in the Mount Timpanogas Temple. October 2001
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Kelsi and Cameron going back in time.
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Kelsi working the camera!
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2003 Gillies Family picture in Temecula, California.
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Jeff, Joanne, Cameron & Kelsi in San Diego, California. April 2017
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Glenn & Debby marry on May 11, 1990, in the Washington D.C. Temple.
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Glenn & Debby starting their family!
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Weee.....having fun being a kid again!
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Happiness is being a Granddad!!
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Glenn & Granddad with Jayne and Brandon.
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A perfect summer day to enjoy a dinner in Glenn's backyard in Franklin, Virginia.
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Grandad & Jayne while on vacation in Crosby.
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Granddad visiting Chloe in her Franklin, Virginia home.
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Glenn (holding baby Anna), Debby, Jayne, William, Chloe, Brandon & Tristan.
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Brandon's baptism with his father, Glenn, and his grandparents.
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Brandon, William, Jayne, Debby, Glenn, Anna, Chloe & Tristan.
(William & Tristan are fraternal twins)
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Brandon serves in the Army.
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Beautiful sisters, Jayne & Chloe.
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Jayne and Matthew (Matt) marry on February 13, 2015, in the Washington D.C. Temple.
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Anthony serves in the Army National Guard (Sergeant E-5 when enlisted and First Lieutenant AA Officer)
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Anthony graduates from BYU with a degree in Mechanical Engineering.
Wesley, Glenn, Anthony, Charles, Greg & Valerie.
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Anthony & Laurine marry on September 7, 1994, in the Salt Lake City Temple.
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Anthony loves being a Father!
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Baby Ryan checking out his new grandparents!
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Granddad getting on the floor with Ryan, whose not yet crawling.
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Granddad & Nana with Ryan.
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Anthony's family photo taken in the backyard of their Maryland home.
sitting (L>R): Ryan, Valerie, Anthony (holding Alyssa), Laurine, (holding baby Kyle) & Tony.
standing (L>R) Chad & Sean
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Tony, Chad, Ryan & Anthony visiting sites while on a cross-country drive from Maryland to Utah.
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Chad visiting the family while on leave from the Navy.
Sean, Anthony, Chad, Ryan, Valerie, Alyssa with Kyle in front of his Father.
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Greg & Laura marry on April 25, 1992, in the Jordan River Temple, Utah.
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Zachary, Jace and baby Spencer.
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Family picture including Bella, the dog.
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Photo taken while living in Wellington, Florida.
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Zak, Spencer, Greg, Laura and Jace in the Utah mountains.
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Zak and Heidi marry on July 15, 2017, in the Timpanogas Temple in American Fork, Utah.
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Wesley and Laura marry on October 12, 2002, in the Washington D.C. Temple.
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Granddad & Logan (Wes & Laura's first born)
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Christmas with Logan.
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Blake joins the family! Granddad is there for his blessing.
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Logan's baptism with his younger brother, Blake, Uncle Glenn, and his Grandparents.
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Logan & Blake helping Granddad in his garage.
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Granddad & Logan by Wesley's backyard pond.
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Logan enjoying his grandparents reading to him at his house.
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Granddad teaching Logan how to mow the grass the easy, fun way!
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Logan sharing a birthday celebration with his Granddad!
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Blake enjoying Fourth of July porch time with Granddad.
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Laura, Blake, Wesley & Logan.
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Smith Mountain Lake is where we have had our Charles Kandare family reunion every other year since 2000.
Each nuclear family rents their own cabin and we spend a wonderful week together on the lake. At first we would all rent one houseboat, and now as each family has grown, we rent our own ski boats. It's a time of strengthening our family bonds and creating new memories.
Smith Mountain Lake has now become our Crosby vacations.
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Our only professional family photo taken at Smith Mountain Lake in 2002 with nuclear family color coded T-shirts.
Light Blue.....Mom & Dad
Teal................Joanne's family
Dk Blue.........Glenn's family
Yellow...........Anthony's family
Red................Greg's Family
Orange..........Wes & Laura
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Cousins growing up at Smith Mountain Lake!
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Granddad and Debby enjoy boating on Smith Mountain Lake.
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After lake time, Glenn & Granddad have clean up duty.
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Having a Luau on the Houseboat to celebrate Granddad's 70th birthday!
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Granddad enjoying the experience of holding Kelsi while she sleeps on the houseboat.
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Granddad & Kelsi having a "thumbs up" time at SML.
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Logan in the back of Granddad's truck!
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Granddad loves Laura, and her amazing home-cooked meals.
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Fathers & sons bonding time!!
Wesley with his son, Logan. Glenn with his son, Brandon and Charles with his sons and grandsons.
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Granddad enjoying dinner with Anna & Brandon.
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The Kandare family is growing...
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Valerie & Charles enjoying quality time by the camp fire. Spending a week with their posterity at Smith Mountain Lake is true happiness.
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Alyssa, Valerie & Kelsi behind Brandon & Granddad.
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Granddad is the man, as his grandsons show how much they love him.
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Spencer lives in Round Rock, Texas, and is happy to be spending rare time with his Granddad!
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Joanne loves her Dad!
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Brandon & Granddad enjoying camp fire time.
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Living in California, Joanne & Jeff don't get to see the Kandare family very often. Being at SML every two years is special family time.
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Best part of the evening is relaxing with family.
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Chloe loves her Granddad.
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Laura & Greg enjoying quality, relaxing time.
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Tony's baptism to be performed by his father, Anthony, at Smith Mountain Lake.
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Anna & Granddad
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Brothers going fishing.
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Laura, Greg & Zak with Jace and Spencer up front.
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Sean, Anthony, Ryan and Chad
with Tony, Valerie and Alyssa up front.
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Fun day at the lake with Anthony's family in the boat and William & Cameron standing on the dock.
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Inside Mom & Dad's cabin at SML. Anthony, Greg, Glenn & Wes standing behind their parents and sister, Joanne in front.
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Granddad walking to the docks.
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Family time!
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Silly times with the family!
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William & Cameron want to make sure they don't get sunburned!
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Granddad leading the way!
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Wesley & Logan looking cool with their shades!
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Best way to end a day on the lake.
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Cousins having fun!!
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One evening at SML, we rent out the local fire hall to have a dinner together, watch movies, and play games (especially poker with Granddad).
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It's poker time!
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We all celebrated Nana & Granddad's 50th Wedding anniversary at the fire hall in 2012. A family gift was given of a book (with pictures and individual letters) celebrating their Golden Anniversary.
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Valerie & Charles opening their 50th anniversary gift.
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Granddad enjoying his sugar free cake!
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Granddad with his first grandchild, Jayne.
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Wesley's family wishing Nana & Granddad a Happy Golden Anniversary!
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Joanne with her Father.
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I wonder who's winning? Granddad seems to have quite the pile of change.
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Hmmmm...does Granddad owe Tristan some money??
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Glenn hanging with his Dad.
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Going out to breakfast is a treat for the adults in the Kandare family at Smith Mountain Lake.
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Kyle is always happy and smiling.
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Brandon spending time with his grandparents on their cabin's front porch.
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Joanne with her parents outside their SML cabin.
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Charles & Valerie with all their sons: Greg, Glenn, Wesley & Anthony.
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Everyone is growing up!
Ryan, Sean, Brandon, Granddad, Glenn, Wesley, Zak, Jeff, Tristan, Jace & Spencer.
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Wesley and Zak look like they are related.
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Happiness is being the father of these four great sons!!
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Brothers, Glenn & Wesley
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Tristan loves his Granddad, whom he affectionately calls "Sarge".
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Tristan & "Sarge"
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Tristan is the gentleman to escort Nana up the hill to her cabin.
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It wouldn't be a vacation without a trip to Krispy Kreme with the grandkids.
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Going antique shopping is a tradition for Joanne & Granddad at Smith Mountain Lake.
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Granddad sharing a laugh with Greg.
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Family time in Glenn's backyard in Wilmington, North Carollina.
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Having dinner in Wesley's backyard in Virginia Beach, Virginia.
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Granddad with his two broken fingers!
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Dad and Joanne outside the military home in Little Creek, Virginia, where they used to live when Joanne was a baby.
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Sean & Alyssa with their Granddad and Uncle Wesley.
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A long day for Wesley and Granddad as they both catch their Zzzzz's.
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Proud Veteran!!
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Merry Christmas!
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Granddad loves it when Debby stops by for a visit.
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Wow...Nana turns 80!!
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Nana and Granddad watching "Judge Judy".
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Porch time is a special place to visit with Granddad.
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Anna taking time to visit her Granddad in the hospital.
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Blake & Logan with their new glasses visiting Granddad at his house.
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A rare photo of Anthony and all his children with Grandad & Nana.
Kyle, Anthony, Chad, Tony, Valerie, Alyssa standing behind Grandad, Nana, Sean & Ryan.
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Brandon loves hanging with his Granddad.
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William loves his Granddad.
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Granddad loves Jayne & Matt.
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Granddad & Kelsi are still giving the thumbs up!
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Granddad, Nana, Joanne, Jeff, Kelsi and Cameron.
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Greg taking a selfie with his Father.
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Joanne receives a hug from her Father.
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Anthony & Kyle drive from Maryland to visit Granddad.
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Joanne & Kelsi fly from California to see Granddad.
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Our family is there for each other!!
(Kelsi & Chloe at Granddad's bedside).
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Granddad is happy to have Laura at his hospital bedside.
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Granddad is feeling the love of his family, as they visit from near and far, to support him and be with him during his hospital stay.
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Celebrating Charles' 85th Birthday!
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Chloe spending time with her Granddad in his home.
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Wesley helps his Dad out of his bed to his favorite chair, where he can look out the window.
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The family comes together to celebrate the life of Charles Kandare at his funeral on February 3, 2018, in Virginia Beach.
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Ryan admiring his Granddad's military awards and accomplishments.
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Pall bearers line the casket as the American Flag is placed over the coffin.
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Charles received a Military funeral complete with taps, gun salute and presentation of the American flag to Valerie.
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Nana with her Granddaughters: Alyssa, Chloe, Anna & Valerie.
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Joanne, Glenn, Greg, Anthony & Wesley in front of their Father's final resting place.
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Valerie visiting her husband's grave for the first time after the funeral.
God be with you until we meet again...