OBITUARY

Prudence Bartley Gray

July 15, 1927July 5, 2018

Prudence Bartley Gray 1927 – 2018

East Vassalboro – It is with great sadness that the family of Prudence Bartley Gray announces her passing on Thursday, July 5, 2018 at the age of 90. She was born in Presque Isle, Maine on July 15, 1927, the daughter of Ashton and Arthuretta (Kierstead) Bartley. Prudence attended elementary school in Westfield, Maine and graduated from Presque Isle High School. She furthered her education at Washington State Normal School of Machias and graduated from the University of Maine.

During her college years, she met Allen Gray of Wesley, Maine and they married in 1948. Prudence and Allen settled in East Vassalboro where they raised their four children. Prudence taught school in the Presque Isle, Winslow and finally the Waterville school systems when she retired in 1982. She was a member of the Maine State Retired Teachers Association, Vassalboro United Methodist Church, United Methodist Women, Vassalboro Grange and a lifelong member of the NEA.

Prudence is survived by her daughter Ann Gray Paoletti and her husband Stephen of Costa Mesa, California; her son Douglas Gray of Waterville; her daughter Lynne Gray of Vassalboro; her grandchildren: Jeremy, Joshua and Erin Gray; Travis Clark and his wife Amy; Sarah Clark and her fiancé David Gordon; her sisters: Irene Tweedie; Donna and husband Winston Carter; Dolores and husband Phil Beals; Sharon Madore; Brenda and husband Raymond Saucier; her brother Cary and wife Judy Bartley; sister-in-law Ann Bartley; brothers-in-law James Gray and Wayne Porter; as well as numerous nieces and nephews.

She was predeceased by her husband Allen in 1994; her son Gary Gray and his wife Paula; her sisters: Gertrude Hawkins; Theora Porter; Joyce Duncan; Claudette Brewer; her brothers: Ashton Ray, Wayne and Albert Bartley.

The family would like to extend special thanks to VNA Home Health Hospice employees Laura, Sherri and Sheila for their gentle care and family support.

Visiting hours will be Friday July 13, 2018 from 5 – 7 pm at Veilleux Funeral Home, 8 Elm Street, Waterville. A funeral service will be held on Saturday July 14, 2018 at 11:00 am at the Vassalboro United Methodist Church, 614 Main Street, Vassalboro. Burial will follow in East Vassalboro Methodist Cemetery, Bog Road, East Vassalboro, Maine. Please visit www.veilleuxfuneralhome.com to view a video collage of Prudence’s life and to share condolences, memories and tributes with her family.

In lieu of flowers, friends may make donations in Prudence’s memory to: The Vassalboro Food Pantry, c/o Cindy Ferland, 26 Ferland Lane, Vassalboro, ME 04989

Services

  • Visiting Hours Friday, July 13, 2018
  • Funeral Service Saturday, July 14, 2018
  • Burial Saturday, July 14, 2018
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Biography

Prudence Bartley Gray
1927 – 2018

East Vassalboro – It is with great sadness that the family of Prudence Bartley Gray announces her passing on Thursday, July 5, 2018 at the age of 90. She was born in Presque Isle, Maine on July 15, 1927, the daughter of Ashton and Arthuretta (Kierstead) Bartley. Prudence attended elementary school in Westfield, Maine and graduated from Presque Isle High School. She furthered her education at Washington State Normal School of Machias and graduated from the University of Maine.

During her college years, she met Allen Gray of Wesley, Maine and they married in 1948. Prudence and Allen settled in East Vassalboro where they raised their four children. Prudence taught school in the Presque Isle, Winslow and finally the Waterville school systems when she retired in 1982. She was a member of the Maine State Retired Teachers Association, Vassalboro United Methodist Church, United Methodist Women, Vassalboro Grange and a lifelong member of the NEA.

Prudence is survived by her daughter Ann Gray Paoletti and her husband Stephen of Costa Mesa, California; her son Douglas Gray of Waterville; her daughter Lynne Gray of Vassalboro; her grandchildren: Jeremy, Joshua and Erin Gray; Travis Clark and his wife Amy; Sarah Clark and her fiancé David Gordon; her sisters: Irene Tweedie; Donna and husband Winston Carter; Dolores and husband Phil Beals; Sharon Madore; Brenda and husband Raymond Saucier; her brother Cary and wife Judy Bartley; sister-in-law Ann Bartley; brothers-in-law James Gray and Wayne Porter; as well as numerous nieces and nephews.

She was predeceased by her husband Allen in 1994; her son Gary Gray and his wife Paula; her sisters: Gertrude Hawkins; Theora Porter; Joyce Duncan; Claudette Brewer; her brothers: Ashton Ray, Wayne and Albert Bartley.

The family would like to extend special thanks to VNA Home Health Hospice employees Laura, Sherri and Sheila for their gentle care and family support.

Visiting hours will be Friday July 13, 2018 from 5 – 7 pm at Veilleux Funeral Home, 8 Elm Street, Waterville. A funeral service will be held on Saturday July 14, 2018 at 11:00 am at the Vassalboro United Methodist Church, 614 Main Street, Vassalboro. Burial will follow in East Vassalboro Methodist Cemetery, Bog Road, East Vassalboro, Maine. Please visit www.veilleuxfuneralhome.com to view a video collage of Prudence’s life and to share condolences, memories and tributes with her family.

In lieu of flowers, friends may make donations in Prudence’s memory to: The Vassalboro Food Pantry, c/o Cindy Ferland, 26 Ferland Lane, Vassalboro, ME 04989

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The following eulogy was given at Prudence's funeral service at the United Methodist Church in Vassalboro on Saturday July 14, 2018:

We have gathered together today to celebrate the life of Prudence Gray and to say our goodbyes to a remarkable woman. I would like to thank all of you for coming to be with our family as we pay tribute to Prudence.

For those of you who may not know who I am, I am Gary’s son, Joshua Gray and Prudence was my Grandmother.

Each of us know my grandmother in very different ways: as a mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, teacher, and friend. But, all of us saw in her a calm quiet demeanor, a non-judgmental personality, a calm quiet temperament, a constant kindness, and an acceptance of others and their actions. As our mother and grandmother, she had endless patience and time for each of us. She was the foundation of our family. Gramma was always quietly in the background, putting our needs first above hers. She was our family’s guiding light.

Prudence was born July 15, 1927 in the small northern Maine town of Westfield. Her parents were Ashton and Arthuretta (Kierstead) Bartley. She was raised with strong family values that would endure throughout her lifetime.

During her childhood, she and her five sisters, Gertrude, Theora, Joyce, Irene, and Donna suffered the devastating loss of their mother. Her father was determined to keep his daughters together and see that they remained close and kept the last wish of his wife, to see that all the girls obtain a solid education.

Prudy graduated from Presque Isle High School and went on to attend Washington State Normal School where she met and married the love of her life, Allen Gray. She went on to complete her bachelors degree from the University of Maine.

Many of you know her as a teacher. She taught in Presque Isle, Winslow, and finally retired from the Waterville School System.

After marriage, she and Allen settled in East Vassalboro where they raised their four children; Gary, Ann, Douglas, and Lynne. Prudy and Allen were further blessed with five beautiful grandchildren; Jeremy, Joshua, Erin, Travis, and Sarah.

She has survived and overcome numerous obstacles throughout her life with such grace and dignity. The early childhood loss of a mother, tragic loss of a father in an automobile accident, heartbreaking loss of a husband, loss of sisters from debilitating illnesses, and the unimaginable loss of a son.

Never did she become bitter and always with strong faith accepted God’s plan for her life. She has been the strongest pillar in our family. We aspire to have the strength, faith, and qualities she displayed throughout her life.

There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in our hearts. Now Mama and Gramma, fly with the angels and dance amongst the stars. We love you. Goodbye for now.




My name is Erin Gray and Prudence was my Gramma.

Tis Only We Who Grieve

They do not leave.
They are not gone.

They look upon us still.
They walk among the valley now.

They stride upon the hill.
Their smile is in the summer sky.

Their grace is in the breeze,
Their memories whisper in the grass,
Their calm is in the trees.

Their light is in the winter snow.
Their tears are in the rain.

Their merriment runs in the brook.
Their laughter in the lane.

Their gentleness is in the flowers.
They sigh in Autumn leaves.

They do not leave, they are not gone.
Tis only we who grieve.







My name is Sarah Clark and Prudence was my Gramma.


She is Gone

You can shed tears that she has gone
Or you can smile because she has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can not see her.
Or you can be full of the love that you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday.
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember her and only that she is gone
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what she would want:
Smile, open your eyes, love, and go on.