Mary M Freimuth

April 22, 1930March 30, 2019

Mary (Marchese) Freimuth, 88, beloved wife of 68 years to Irving Freimuth of Wellfleet, Massachusetts, passed on to eternal life on Saturday, March 30. Mary was the daughter of the late Joseph and Marie (Schoeber) Marchese of Middletown, Connecticut. Mary was born in Middletown and lived there with her husband until their retirement in 1994. At that time they moved to their dream home in Wellfleet, Massachusetts where Irving continues to reside.

Mary is survived by her husband, her children Susan Freimuth and her wife Desiree Jerrick of Andover, Connecticut, and Paul Freimuth and his wife Mia Jacob of East Setauket, New York; and grandchildren Andrew Freimuth of East Setauket and Erika Freimuth of Cambridge, Massachusetts.

Mary was a joyful, talented and loving woman who lived life to the fullest and encouraged all those around her to do the same. She was especially fond of children and had a long career as a Montessori teacher and VISTA volunteer in public and private schools in Middletown. She led Girl Scout troops for 13 years in Middletown. Spending time with her grandchildren was a special delight. She loved introducing them to all the special places she loved on the Cape. To her grandchildren, she was known as “Oma”, and she became known to many others by that name as well.

Music was a great love of Mary’s life. She was blessed with a beautiful singing voice and participated in choral groups at churches in Connecticut and at St. Peter’s Lutheran Church in Harwich, Massachusetts. She was also active in community choral groups in Connecticut, and the Chatham Music Club on the Cape.

Mary was an active member of churches in Connecticut and on the Cape throughout her life. She and Irving joined St. Peter’s Lutheran Church in Harwich upon their move to the Cape, where Mary led the Esther Circle group from the first day she attended a meeting until shortly before her death. Mary also enjoyed the fellowship of the Chapel of St. James the Fisherman in Wellfleet during the summer months.

An enthusiastic fan of New England sports teams, Mary cheered loyally for the Red Sox, the Patriots, and her favorite team, UConn Huskies Women’s Basketball.

Mary and Irving enjoyed traveling, and took many wonderful trips, especially during their retirement years. Trips to Australia, New Zealand and Hawaii were highlights. They also traveled to Germany, Poland, Holland and Italy to spend time with family and visit cultural and natural destinations. They looked forward to spending winter months in warmer climates, including Florida, Galveston, and Palm Springs.

Mary loved the natural world and all, or most, of its creatures. She rarely missed an opportunity to greet the rising full moon at White Crest Beach in Wellfleet. A blue moon was an occasion for a campfire on the beach, preferably with marshmallows. She loved to watch hummingbirds at the feeder and bluebirds in the nesting boxes in her back yard. She loved all the pets in the family and in the neighborhood.

She was skilled at handicrafts as well, knitting many handsome sweaters for her family and a complete set of personalized Christmas stockings for family members on both sides of the Atlantic. She learned basketmaking and crafted beautiful baskets for her home and others.

Mary’s talents in the kitchen were much appreciated by her family and friends. She loved to cook and to entertain family and friends in her home. She appreciated the flavors of good food and was a big fan of Wellfleet oysters. A great meal in great company were among her life’s greatest pleasures.

Mary touched the lives of many wherever she went. She will be sorely missed by her family and her many friends in many places. We are deeply thankful for the privilege of sharing her time on earth.

A memorial service celebrating her life will be held at St. Peter’s Lutheran Church, 310 Rt. 137, Harwich, Massachusetts on April 22, 2019 at 11:00 a.m. Her family will greet friends at the church prior to the service beginning at 10:00 a.m. Burial will be in Pine Grove Cemetery in Middletown, Connecticut on a date to be determined.

In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made in her memory to the Organ Fund of St. Peter’s Lutheran Church, 310 Rt. 137, Harwich, MA 02645.



  • Visitation Monday, April 22, 2019
  • Memorial Service Monday, April 22, 2019


  • Burial

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Linda Reynolds

April 19, 2019

Sue.....I was so sorry to hear of the passing of your mother. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Olive and Mike Shu

April 16, 2019

Mary was such a warm and welcoming person. We will miss her greatly at the chapel this summer. Our prayers are with Irv and the family and hope all the wonderful memories will bring you comfort. Olive and Mike Shu. Dunedin, FL

Debbie Hendryx

April 13, 2019

My "Aunt" Mary was one of the kindest women I knew. As close childhood friends of my parents, Marion and Dick Wohlman, we would visit and vacation together during my childhood. Those are some of my fondest childhood memories, with Aunt Mary at the center of the card playing, laughter and adventures. Her faith in our Lord and Savior was always present, leaving us all with an example of what a true Christ follower was. I will miss her, but know she is now in the loving arms of our Heavenly Father....singing, playing cards, and laughing with my Mom and Dad.

Jim Schaffer

April 10, 2019

Dear Irv, Sue and Paul,
So sorry for your loss. There are so many fond memories.
Jim Schaffer

Jean Mazzarella

April 6, 2019

Dear Irv,
So sorry to hear of Mary's passing. I have such fond memories of our times in Florida . . . starting with Tikki, Mary leading our exercise classes in the pool, all those UCONN Women's Bball games, sharing meals . . . We all loved her.
Yours and Mary's relationship was very special to Paul and I.
Our deepest sympathy to you and your family.
P.S. Irv, I will always remember how Mary and yourself always made me feel so welcome to all of your activities during my yearly invasions. Mary was a very special person who showed her love for life.
Jean Mazz

Lee McQuillan

April 4, 2019

Susan, my condolences to you and your family on the recent loss of your mother.

Lee Fanning

April 4, 2019

Mary’s smiling face brightened Sunday mornings at The Chapel of Saint James. She was always ready to help some one. I felt privileged to know her and to share altar duties with her. A kind and gentle soul.