Shirley T. Blakeley

July 14, 1926May 14, 2014
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Shirley T. Blakeley, a longtime resident of South Wellfleet, passed away peacefully at home, surrounded by family members, on May 14, 2014. Shirley was born in Lowell, Massachusetts, in 1926, the daughter of Bertha Hersome, a descendant of two of the original Pilgrim settlers of Nauset, and Anstein Myhr, a Norwegian. Shirley grew up in Tewksbury, MA, and graduated from Tewksbury High School in 1944. She was married to Donald Eaton from 1946 to 1958, and to Robert Blakeley from 1959 to 1974. She moved to Wellfleet in the early 1950s and lived in her early nineteenth-century house (the former South Wellfleet General Store) on LeCount Hollow Road for over sixty years. Shirley, who waitressed for nearly three decades and had a sewing business before returning to college in her late fifties, was devoted to her community. She majored in gerontology at Cape Cod Community College and for eighteen years cared for the Lower and Outer Cape’s elderly as a social worker for Elder Services, retiring at age 78. An accomplished seamstress, Shirley tailored fine clothing for both men and women, running a business out of her home on LeCount Hollow while raising a family. She also waitressed at Chillingsworth in Brewster during the 1960s and 70s and served as a hostess at the Wellfleet Oyster House for fifteen years under the management of her friend Tony Castelo. An artist by avocation, Shirley quilted, painted, sewed, refinished furniture, arranged flowers, and découpaged. She loved to read, garden, and travel. When she wasn’t working, Shirley often volunteered, answering hotlines, visiting shut-ins, or serving as a mentor. A longtime member of Alcoholics Anonymous, her door was always open to those in need, and she helped dozens of people through rough times by offering a room in her home and meals at her table. Shirley was an avid Red Sox fan. When her children were young, Fenway Park was a favorite destination. In later years, Shirley often attended games with her co-workers from Elder Services. She was a member of the Needlecraft Club in Wellfleet and of the Wellfleet Congregational Church, where several of her children were baptized and married. An excellent cook, Shirley was happiest when surrounded by family and friends, and she hosted countless dinners and parties over the years. Her home was the center of family gatherings for decades, and she will forever be remembered as the moving force behind her family’s activities and celebrations. Shirley was predeceased by one of her children, David Eaton, in 2008; a grandchild, Jason Carlson, in 1992; a great-grandchild, Amanda Webb, in 2007; and her partner of over 40 years, Charles Heudes, in 2013. Shirley was a loyal, loving sister to Peggy Stone of Jacksonville, FL; the late Donald Myhr of Weare, NH; and her sister-in-law Bessie Myhr.


  • Memorial Service Monday, May 26, 2014

Shirley T. Blakeley

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Marie Ellis

June 10, 2015

Miss you so much. I know you are watching over everyone and are with David and Charlie. You were and still are a big part of my life. Love you much .............

Nancy Nicol

May 23, 2014

Dearest Shirley, I will miss the selfless love you showered on me over the past fourteen years as my sponsor and friend. We shared rides, enjoyed "early birds," the first PJ's kale soup of the season, the 4th of July parade and the monthly pot lucks at your house with us AA gals. If I could, I would model myself after you, and be content with a smidge of the dignity, strength and spirituality you expressed.

Julie Eaton-Wiley

May 20, 2014

I wish Nana and I had lived close to each other but I treasured our letters and emails and the few times we did get to visit with each other in person. My dad always shared great stories about her and I'm very proud to be one of her grandchildren. I know my dad's happy to have his mom with him once more and I'm sure she's keeping an eye on him once again. Thanks to Uncle Paul for keeping me updated and all my love and prayers go out to the family. Love, Julie

Marie Ellis

May 19, 2014

Always in my heart and thoughts. My dearest friend and confidant. Loved and will always remember our visits, talks and laughs - what great times and great memories I have. God bless and love to all.

Stone & Gross Families

May 19, 2014

We will miss you so much Aunt Shirley and we thank you for being the wonderful, fun, caring, and loving Aunt to all of us. Our memories we will hold forever in our hearts and we were blessed that you were a part of our lives. Sending love and prayers to all of the Blakeley/Eaton families. May God hold you close and bring you comfort and peace. With love, Your Florida and NY Nieces and Nephews and Great-Nieces and -Nephews

Jerry Kibbe

May 18, 2014

Thank you Shirley f/ your friendship in my "early" years .
God Bless

richard orell

May 17, 2014

You will always be in my heart Shirley.
Until we meet again,
Love Richard

The Staff of Nickerson Funeral Home

May 16, 2014

We wish to extend our deepest sympathies at this difficult time.