Benjamin Lee Gates

August 2, 1954August 2, 2018

GATES - Benjamin L. “Ben” Of Elma, NY, suddenly August 2, 2018; beloved husband of Lori (nee Offhaus); dearest father of Ben, Jr. (Diana), Jack (Patty), Shellee (Josh) Higgins, Amanda (Ryan) Nolan and Kristie Dehn; also survived by nine grandchildren; brother of Nancy (Ron) Lofgren and Robert (Donna) Gates; also survived by several cousins, nieces and nephews. Family present Monday 3-8 PM at the HOY FUNERAL HOME, 3855 Seneca St., West Seneca, where Funeral Services will be held Tuesday morning at 11. Friends invited. Flowers gratefully declined. Online condolences may be shared at


  • Visitation Monday, August 6, 2018
  • Funeral Service Tuesday, August 7, 2018

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Nadine and Art Fulle

August 7, 2018

I remember meeting Ben at the firehall for one of the many functions and then becoming besties with Lori or as I call her Mama gates. I watched all of the kids grow up and become beautiful men and women with families of their own.
Each time seeing Ben he gave you that smile and would give you a big old bear hug especially if he hadn't seen you in sometime.
His smile will be missed but his memories will always be there.
Our thoughts are with Lori and the kids and may he Rest in Peace and always be smiling down and watching over his family from above. The heavens have got them a great angel.

Sandy Cavalieri

August 5, 2018

Ur passing is such a loss to anyone who knew you. Paul & I have such great memories of our bike rides, vacations & just hanging out together w/u and Lori. U will be loved & greatly missed & will forever be in our hearts💖💖

Pat Tomlinson

August 5, 2018

Ben will forever be my dear friend. Such a generous, loving soul. His family is his life and beyond. Always made time for his friends. That laugh...i can hear just thinking of him. Rest in Peace, Ride Free! Miss you my friend ♡

John Miller

August 5, 2018

So sorry for your loss our prayers are with you and your family.

Suzanne Ottney

August 4, 2018

So sorry to hear of your loss, know that your family is in my thoughts and prayers

Laura Brock

August 4, 2018

We are so sorry for the loss of your Dad😞

Barb/Dave Murie

August 3, 2018

Forever in our hearts. Prayers to Family and friends. Ben we will miss you!

Ed Ortman

August 3, 2018

Lori; I was shocked to hear about Ben. I meant to call him for his birthday and reminisce about our childhood, Army times, motorcycles, heavy equipment, and trucks. I will miss our conversations and time together. Ben will live forever as long as we remember him. I for one will never forget him as I’m sure is the same for his children, grand-children, nieces, nephews, and friends.

In my life I have had many friends but only two close friends. Ben was my oldest and dearest. And although we didn’t keep in touch as often as we should have when we did we laughed hard and cried quietly. We may not have expressed love directly but it was there none the less.