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Thomas Wayne Cox

September 8, 1949June 9, 2019

Thomas Wayne Cox, 69, passed away at his home with his wife by his side on June 9, 2019. He died due to stage 4 lung cancer which was diagnosed in March of this year. He was born September 8, 1949 in Anderson, IN. to Alden Lamar and Hulda Laura (Spegal) Cox, both deceased. He was also pre-deceased by his son, Paul Cox, 34, in 2006. Tom grew up in Lapel, IN where he graduated from Lapel High School in 1967. The memories of his childhood in Lapel brought him joy his entire life; and included friendships formed then which endured until the time of his death. He chose to follow his passion, not college, and began what would be a career which brought him honor and distinction. Tom has been an Advocate for the treatment of persons and families suffering with Substance Use Disorders since the 70’s. He helped to professionalize those who treated these disorders by helping to develop the first Certification of Drug Addictions Counselors in the State of Indiana in 1977 for ICAADA. He was a leader in the eventual passage of Licensure in Indiana, one of the first in the country. He was also an advocate for youth and involved with developing one of the first transitional living facilities for adolescents in Indiana. He was also a Founding Member of the Indiana Addictions Issues Coalition, an organization to advocate for treatment, breaking the stigma for those suffering with Substance Use Disorders, and giving a hopeful voice for Recovery. He has been the recipient of numerous awards including the “Individual Healthcare Professionals” Award given by Mental Health America in Indiana for persons who have contributed to the care of others. He has also been a long term Member of the Board of MHAI. Tom has been a face for the field of treatment for Substance Use Disorders for nearly half a century. His service on Advisory Boards and sub-committees for the Indiana Division of Mental Health and Addictions is extensive. Tom served as Executive Director for Amethyst House in Bloomington from 2000 to 2010 and championed their work before and after his employment. In “retirement”, Tom worked as a Clinical Consultant at the SASSI Institute, Springville, IN; and as a consultant with Scott County Indiana during the unprecedented HIV epidemic which devastated their community in March of 2015. Tom faithfully attended the weekly meetings of the local health coalition “Get Healthy Scott County” offering his services and remained with them until the time of his illness. He mentored them and taught them how to be a “Recovery Community.” He leaves behind his devoted wife of 29 years, Jude Smith; his sister, Jan Ford (John); his nieces, Holly Manning (Chris), Abby Ford; two great-nieces, Georgia and Emma Manning, all of Lapel, IN; his brother-in-law, Ron Cochran (Julia) of Bend, OR; his daughters-in-his-heart, Elizabeth Barnett, Jill Barnett and his grandson, Christopher Barnett of Bloomington. Tom loved his dogs, Toby and Doc and will be greatly missed by them; however, he will be only moderately missed by Jude’s cat, Dudley. Arrangements are entrusted to Day & Deremiah-Frye Funeral Home, 4150 E. Third St., Bloomington, Indiana 47401. A Celebration of Life will be held at a later date. Online condolences may be given to www.DayDeremiahFrye.com


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Cheryl DeVol-Glowinski

July 5, 2019

Rest in peace Tom.
Cheryl DeVol-Glowinski
Former Executive Director
Addiction Resource Network of Indiana (ARNI)

Judith Bell

June 24, 2019

Hi Jude,

It's Judy Bell. Just found out about Tom passing away. I am so sorry. What a wonderful obituary. Tom leaves quite a legacy in his work with addictions, mental illness, recovery, and Certification/Licensure.

Even though we rarely saw each other, I've told many people about Tom, "the old hippie" like me. He was very kind when I had major life changes when I started at CASI in 1993. Mentioned him in the Mentoring group I'm facilitating now (retired 2017 and started private practice in the past year) and with others the past 20 + years.

When you set up Celebration of Life, please let me know. If need anything, let me know.
Email: judithbell14@gmail.com
Cell Phone: 317-850-4016.
Best to email or text and if want to talk, can call from Caption phone (hearing problems).

Judy 💜

Ralf Shaw

June 11, 2019

Dear Jude, Doc, and Toby,
My condolences on your loss. Thank you for sharing Tom with our neighborhood. We miss his commitment to community and his common sense.