Support Family and Friends

Losing a loved one is one of the hardest things many of us will ever face. Dealing with death is difficult, and grief can sometimes be overwhelming. Each person grieves in his or her unique way, and determining the best way to show your support to someone who is grieving can be tough. What’s the best way to convey your sincere sympathy? How can you show you care in a meaningful, appropriate and comforting way?

There are all kinds of ways to show that you care. Sympathy cards, condolence messages, flowers or plants, food and small gifts are a few ways to express support. Attending a funeral or memorial service to offer condolences in person is another meaningful action.

If you need assistance finding an appropriate gift or crafting the right words, your Dignity Memorial® professionals can help. We’ve put together a list of resources to help you choose the best way to show your sympathy and support.

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Ways to show sympathy

Whether you want to write a letter, share a favorite memory or simply provide a listening ear to someone who has suffered a loss, the most important thing is to be heartfelt and sincere. Sending flowers or a gift, or attending a memorial service can be other ways to show your sympathy. Ongoing support in the weeks and months following the service lets someone know you care and are there to lend assistance whenever it's needed.

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What to say when someone dies

It can be hard to know what to say to someone who is grieving. It’s easy to feel like there are no words that will truly offer solace, but simply saying, “I’m here for you,” or “I’m so sorry,” can be enough. If you’re more comfortable letting actions speak for you, you can convey your condolences by attending the funeral, sending a gift or taking a meal to the family.

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What to write in a sympathy card

It’s common to send a sympathy card to the family or close friends at a time of loss, but often it's hard to know exactly what to say. We have tips on what to write and what to avoid when sending a sympathy card.

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What to wear to a funeral

Whether you’re attending a traditional religious funeral service or a contemporary celebration of life, we can help you decide what to wear.

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Comforting those who grieve

Supporting a friend or loved one who is grieving is an important role. The Dignity Memorial network offers a range of helpful caregiver resources. 

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Writing a eulogy

Delivering a eulogy or funeral speech is an opportunity to share the things you cherished about someone, brag on their accomplishments and tell friends and family about their unique charms and funny quirks.

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Religious and cultural traditions

Religious and cultural traditions in funeral services are a significant and special way to honor a loved one's legacy. Whether you are observing Catholic tradition, incorporating Hindu customs, following Jewish practices or incorporating other religious or cultural aspects important to you or your loved one, we are here to help.

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Grief library

It's hard to know what to say, do or even feel when you're going through the grief process. Use our list of resources to help guide you along the way. Whether you are searching for personal ways to heal or helping loved ones deal with their grief, this is a good place to start.

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